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consent as with any sex act and take it
extremely slowly your partner may well

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find the idea of being penetrated hard
to deal with in practice even if they

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like the thought of it but if a man is
always asking for anal sex when you

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really want to by having a strap on
handy you can smile sweetly and say i

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if you will however in a loving
relationship this kind of

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give you both a real thrill

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There are numerous ways to use a toy on
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Teasing her all over with a vibrator can
be a sensual treat.

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The nipples can respond just as well to
vibration as the clitoris.

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Trail the toy over her inner thigh or
across her pubic mound.

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Use it for lots of clitoral stimulation.

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As she gets more aroused, lie down
beside her with her leg over yours so

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her entire vulva is accessible.

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Bring the toy nearer to her vagina and
penetrate her with it the way she likes

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best. If you don't know what that is,
try a variety of things.

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Teasing the entrance, sliding the toy in
and out.

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or resting it deep inside her and ask
which she likes best

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if you want to experiment with g -spot
play a

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toy can help there are several toys with
bent tips that are designed to make it

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easier to find put the toy inside your
partner and rotate it gradually

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getting deeper until she lets you know
that you've hit the spot

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A vibrating sponge is a very discreet
toy for extra pleasure in the shower or

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bath. Or try using an electric
toothbrush.

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Cover the bristles with cling film, then
use it on the clitoris or testicle.

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Or there's always the DIY option. The
classic is a shower head. Use it to

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warm water over, never up the vagina and
clitoris, or over his testicles. Vary

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the pressure of the spray to see which
is the most intense.

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Don't be scared of getting creative with
the way you use toys either.

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If you're petting on the sofa, why not
put your favourite toy between the

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cushions for your partner to ride while
you kiss and caress her?

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It can help if you fantasise about group
sex but don't want to risk the

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emotional dangers of living it out for
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She can slide up and down on the toy
while fellating you.

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There are always new toys coming out.
The latest wireless toys can even be

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in public.

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Your partner wears it under their
clothes and the vibrations are

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either of you using a remote.

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No matter what you want, there's sure to
be a toy for you. What you do with them

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is limited only by your imagination.

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Most people assume that touching each
other is an essential part of sex play.

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However, anticipation is a wonderful
thing and teasing without touching can

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oh so tempting.

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Phoning up your partner and murmuring
erotic scenarios in their ear will help

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set the mood.

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But be careful if they're in an
important meeting.

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If you call your partner at lunchtime,
they have all afternoon to think about

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what you're going to do later.

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If you're feeling really brave, you may
even want to let your partner hear you

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come. Lie down somewhere comfortable
where you won't be disturbed and stroke

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yourself, letting your partner hear your
moans.

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Text messaging is another great way to
get loved up long distance.

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Send a saucy message, making sure to
leave it open -ended so that your

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can easily reply.

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Make sure that you dial the number
correctly. You don't want your boss to

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the message by mistake.

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While cyber sex with strangers can be
extremely risky...

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Titillating your partner by getting
kinky with your keyboard can get them

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panting for more.

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You may want to get a webcam.

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Strip off for the camera, caressing
yourself as you do.

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For extra safety, you may want to keep
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Just make sure that your partner isn't
the type of person who'd save the

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pictures to show to their friends.

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Strip tease is another way to tease your
partner, and it's not just for women.

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Get dressed up in your sexiest outfits,
making sure it's easy to remove, and

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undies. A little black dress for women,
a tuxedo for men is ideal.

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Make sure that the room is easy enough
for you to dance in. Tripping over is

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sexy.

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Put on some music that makes you want to
bump and grind, and then start the

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show. Run your hands all over your body,
removing each item achingly slowly.

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Remember, striptease isn't about getting
undressed as quickly as possible. It's

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about slow and sensual seduction.

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Eye contact is essential.

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Make sure your partner realises just how
much you want them as you peel off your

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clothes. Sucking your fingers and
stroking your body will add to the sex

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You may even want to add some fantasy.

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Massage can also be an erotic form of
sex play. It's arousing, relaxing,

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sexual and deeply loving, all at the
same time.

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And, best of all, giving can be just as
much fun as receiving.

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There are two main kinds of strokes to
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Petrissage, which is kneading the
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Use both types. Try long, smooth strokes
that follow the curves of your

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partner's body.

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Move slowly and gently and use your body
weight rather than the strength in your

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arms for deep strokes.

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Massage oils smell great and aid
relaxation.

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Scented candles and mood music also help
set the scene.

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When they're suitably relaxed and
aroused, you can move on to their chest,

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arms and hands, teasingly gliding over
their genitals until they're eager with

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anticipation.

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Rather than going straight for oral sex
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move on to genital massage.

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Stroke your partner's body while you
caress his genitals.

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If you're massaging a woman, rub her
thighs or gently caress the entire pubic

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area.

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Vary light strokes with a firmer caress
and see which she prefers. She may like

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both in equal amounts, so experiment.

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After that, you could end with a Thai or
full -body massage where you slip

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-slide all over one another. It's highly
arousing for you both.

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A sensual massage will set all your
partner's nerves alight, so prepare for

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serious fireworks.

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Sensual food can really help boost the
mood.

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Have a romantic meal with asparagus,
oysters or prawns to start.

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Savour the flavours whilst looking your
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and leaving them in no doubt that you'd
rather be nibbling something else.

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Share a glass of champagne for extra
fizz.

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Ask your partner to get naked.

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Take a grape or strawberry, moisten it
between your lips, and then roll it over

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your partner's body.

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As you approach your partner's more
intimate areas, the new sensation will

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driving them wild and they'll be
desperate for more direct contact.

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You may want to add some whipped cream
or drizzled honey to your foodie

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You might be in the mood for some
dessert too.

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If you want to carry on the tease, team
it with mild bondage. A blindfold can

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heighten the mood, as your partner will
have no idea of what's coming next.

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Once you've got your partner suitably
bound, tease them with your breath.

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Kneel across them, being careful not to
let your skin touch theirs, so that all

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they can feel is your body heat.

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Now breathe lightly over their body.
Focus on erogenous zones like the ears

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neck, then gradually slide down the body
to breathe on the nipples, stomach and

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thighs. Work your way down their legs,
then back up the thighs towards the

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genitals. The trick is to be close
enough to give your partner a thrill,

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enough away so that they can't make
contact.

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This is a truly tantalising experience
that will have your partner begging for

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more.

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Experiment with other sensations too. A
feather, fake fur or a silk scarf

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trailed over the body can get surprising
results.

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Ice can also be fun. Just make sure you
melt it slightly first as ice burns can

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be nasty.

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Play out your own nine and a half weeks.

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To add to the sensation, you may want to
drizzle warm or cold water on them so

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that your breath sends a delicious
shiver through the body.

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Sex play is so much more than just a
prequel to penetrated sex.

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It can be just as intimate as full -on
sex, if not more so, and really lets you

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go wild with your creativity.

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If you have a sexy idea that you'd like
to try, talk it over with your partner.

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Communication is the key in any
relationship and could lead to some

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time.

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So, lie back.

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Sit down or stand up and get ready to
enjoy sex play in all its glory.

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You'll be amazed at how much it can
change your sex life for the better.

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Rather than thinking of foreplay as a
starter, enjoy sex play as the

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bacchanalian, loving and erotic feast it
should be.

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Favourite bit of foreplay? I guess I
like my ear to be kind of nibbled every

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often.

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I love it when my wife touches me in a
very soft, gentle way.

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I like to be touched very softly, and I
like lots of kisses all over my body.

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I like giving it, but it's because he's
enjoying it the most that it makes me

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enjoy it even more.

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I love watching my girlfriend use her
vibrator.

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I like it when the man plays the
alphabet game. I like it when he does it

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Russian, though, because there's more
letters.

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You're 10.

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Ever since sex was first discovered,
people have experimented with different

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positions. Ancient texts like the Karma
Sutra contain exotic pictures of

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different sexual positions.

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These books were created to help couples
to enhance their relationship, but also

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to try to prevent some of the sexual
tedium that can settle into a

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when people have been together for a
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The fact that these books exist and that
they are so popular, proves that for

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generations we have had an appetite to
expand our sexual horizons.

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But, and this is the interesting bit,
most people will only ever try three

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positions.

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The man on top, the woman on top, and
doggy style.

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I think it's time we looked out there at
what else there is to enjoy.

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A variety in your sex life will mean a
fresh sex life.

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Adding new positions to your repertoire
can radically improve your sex life. The

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old adage, it's not what you've got,
it's what you do with it, is true.

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Some positions can help make a man seem
bigger.

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Others make things more comfortable if
the man is extremely well endowed.

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A woman can make her vagina tighter or
looser depending on the way she moves

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body.

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Different positions allow access to
different erogenous zones, making it

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to hit those hot spots during sex.

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Some allow for deeper penetration, some
for dual stimulation.

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Some allow for lots of eye contact and
touching, whilst others would qualify

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the sexual Olympics.

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Do you want better orgasms?

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Or do you want your first orgasm through
penetration?

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Only 25 % of women achieve orgasm
through penetrative sex alone.

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But it doesn't have to be this way.
Using different positions can make it

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easier.

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Positions that allow stimulation of the
clitoris, G -spot or both during sex

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help women reach climax more easily.

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Trying out new positions can improve
communication and intimacy between you

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your partner.

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You don't have to be a gymnast to have
great sex.

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But doing the same thing time and time
again should be a thing of the past.

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I'm lazy.

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Nothing beats lying on my back while he
goes down on me. And I can grab his head

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when I come.

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It's not just penetrative sex that
involves a range of positions.

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Oral sex can be varied to get different
kinds of stimulation.

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One of the classic cunnilingus positions
is where the woman lies back with the

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man between her legs and revels in the
sensation.

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This position gives him easy access to
the clit and is also easy to incorporate

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a toy or fingers into.

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For a truly decadent experience, the man
should lie on his back whilst the woman

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kneels between his thighs.

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Sucking him in this position is even
better when the woman looks the man

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straight in the eyes whilst performing.

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If he can see that you enjoy it, then
he'll get off on it even more.

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It blows me away when she kneels in
front of me and sucks me off. She's got

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hair and feeling it brush over my balls
is so sensual.

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Whilst fellatio being performed with a
woman on her knees is seen by some as

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politically incorrect, the power
exchange involved arouses many men and

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In a loving relationship, varying
playing with submissive and dominant

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be a good way to boost your sex life.

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Indeed, the man can kneel while the
woman is standing.

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This position can be a true knee
trembler.

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Depending on the size and width of the
man's penis, Approaching the penis from

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the side may be easier.

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This position makes it very easy to
stroke the balls and close a sex toy

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his anus if he's into that kind of
thing.

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For the best orgasms for a woman through
oral sex, an approach from the side can

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help. The man has easy access to
stimulate the clitoris and pubic mound.

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This is particularly good if the woman
has a sensitive clitoris, as it's easier

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for him to avoid the tip and focus on
the hood and upper labia.

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or try it from behind. The woman should
get onto her hands and knees.

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The man can then go down on her from
behind. He can use his tongue to great

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effect when he approaches from behind.

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If you're into it, and well washed, he
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tongue.

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Sitting on a man's face gives the woman
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She can rub against his mouth and even
nose, careful not to suffocate him, to

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get a great orgasm.

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A common feature in porn videos is men
ejaculating over the woman's face.

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Whilst to some people this is
unacceptable, other women really enjoy

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ideal position is kneeling astride her
chest.

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Whilst it can be tricky for the woman to
take the man very far down her throat

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in this position, there's plenty of
scope for hands and tongue to provide

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than enough stimulation.

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At the point of orgasm, the man can
easily pull away and ejaculate over the

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woman's face.

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And then there's the biggie, deep
throat.

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When it comes to deep throat, some
positions are easier than others.

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The more space the woman's throat has
got, the better.

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It's far easier to do if the woman keeps
her neck straight rather than bending

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over the penis. The woman should control
the pace by putting her hands on the

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man's hips and only pulling him forward
as she feels comfortable.

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Deep throat requires practice and will
not happen if the guy thrusts. The woman

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needs to keep control and do it at her
own pace. Only that way will she be able

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to overcome the gagging reflex.

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Some people enjoy the double thrill of
giving and receiving pleasure at the

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time. Whilst the traditional man or
woman on top positions are fine for

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the side -by -side version helps both
have equal control and enjoyment.

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I'm a romantic soul and love kissing and
cuddling during sex.

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The missionary is the easiest for that.
I have a big crush on the guy I'm with,

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so I like to see him face to face.

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When missionaries visited Africa and the
South Pacific, they apparently insisted

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that the man on top position was the
only proper way to have sex, and hence

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name. However, man on top positions were
written about in the very earliest of

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sex books.

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I like it because I can wrap my arms
around his shoulders and pull our bodies

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really close together, clinging to him
while we make love.

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For many people, the missionary position
is a favourite. Because it's so natural

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and comfortable, it has a lot going for
it.

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The basic missionary position with the
man on top and the woman underneath

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allows intimacy. You can see your
partner's face, kiss, hug and caress

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other.

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The full body contact felt in the
missionary position means the body's

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sexual organ, the skin, is stimulated.

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Feeling your lover's skin against yours
and your heart beating next to each

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other is a great way to make love rather
than just have sex.

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The man has most of the control and good
freedom of movement in this position.

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Most women, though, find it equally
enjoyable.

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The thing I like about missionary is
that I can see a face.

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I like his power. He can shag me really
hard.

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Don't see lubricant as a boring thing or
something that shows the woman can't

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get aroused properly.

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Incorporate it into your lovemaking.

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A splash of cool lubricant on the
clitoris or head of the penis, as well

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inside and outside the condom, can add a
thrill to the proceedings, as well as

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making it easier to have great sex.

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Covering each other in oil or lube can
add even more sensation as you can glide

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seductively over one another.

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Maybe start with an erotic massage and
then add some extra oil to each other's

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chests before you move slowly and
sensually into the missionary position.

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If you use oil, keep it well away from
the pelvic regions as it can rot

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As you'd expect with one of the most
popular sexual positions, there are many

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variations of the missionary position
available.

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I like it when he pins my arms over my
head. I can arch up against him and rub

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my clit.

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You may both find it more pleasurable if
the woman bends her knees with her feet

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on the mattress.

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She can take more control by putting her
feet on the man's buttocks and using

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them to push his pubic bone further into
her clitoris.

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Alternatively, women can try wrapping
their legs around their partner. Known

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the plough, this position deepens
penetration and increases sensation for

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partners by tightening the vagina.

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Once it's even deeper, the woman should
bring her knees up to her chest and then

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lock them in place with her arms.

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But for the deepest penetration of all,
the woman should place her legs over her

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partner's shoulders.

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The further back her legs are, the
deeper the penetration as it lengthens

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vagina. If the man is particularly long,
he should move slowly until he's

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certain that his partner's comfortable.

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Called the anvil, it can allow intense
sensations for the woman, particularly

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the man comes in this position.

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I love the missionary.

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I put my feet on his shoulders or bring
my knees to my chest.

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to make him feel bigger.

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It's just so versatile.

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To increase penetration, the woman can
try putting a pillow underneath her

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Try varying the place you put the pillow
to see which is the best place to

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really help you hit the spot.

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Use a firm cushion rather than a soft
one. You don't want to sink into it. You

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want it to help put your clit in the
right position for maximum stimulation.

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A variation on the missionary position
that takes a bit more effort is the bum

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lift. The man should put his hands under
her hips and lift them up to best angle

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his penis towards her G -spot.

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A further variation of the bum lift is
where the woman rests her legs on the

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man's arms or shoulders.

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You can add spice to the missionary
position by the woman dangling her legs

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thighs over the edge of the bed, but it
could be the sofa, kitchen table or even

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her office desk.

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The man can thrust deeper and the woman
is in a great position to touch her

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clitoris and breasts.

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Want to feel him right up to the hilt,
the woman wraps her legs around him.

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really allows for maximum thrust.

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A wilder variation is the jumping frog.

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Start in the missionary position, the
man then raises himself up to all fours

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and the woman raises her pelvis to meet
the penis.

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The man should stay still as the woman
controls the action from underneath.

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I love sliding up between her legs.
There's something really sexy about

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Possibly one of the most effective
variations on the missionary position is

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coital alignment technique, or cat
position.

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This stimulates the G -spot and clitoris
and is thought to assist mutual orgasm.

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The man rests his full weight on the
woman, then edges forward so that his

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pelvis is directly over hers.

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The woman wraps her legs around him,
keeping them straight.

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then presses up as he moves backwards,
so they're both rocking gently against

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each other.

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As orgasm approaches, rather than
speeding up, they just keep rocking so

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the orgasm comes naturally rather than
being chased.

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This is a truly amazing experience and
should result in great orgasms for both

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of you. In any variation, women can
close their legs to tighten things up.

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However, this can speed the man's
orgasm, so handle with care.

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It can be great for both of you, though,
if a woman closes her legs. It makes

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the man enter the vagina from a sharper
angle, increasing the clitoral

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stimulation. His penis also stimulates
her vaginal lips if she keeps her legs

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together.

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To improve the quality of the orgasm,
the woman can try clenching her buttocks

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while the man's on top.

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This increases blood flow to the pelvis,
making her climax more intense.

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The woman can also try reaching between
the man's legs in this position to

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stroke his testicles. Go gently as some
men are more sensitive than others.

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However, stimulating his testicles
during sex can add a great thrill.

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You can also try pressing his perineum
during sex instead. This is the area

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between his penis and anus. If you press
your thumb against this fleshy pad

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while he's inside you, it will heighten
his pleasure.

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Some men and women like having a finger
inserted in their backside during sex,

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and the missionary position is one of
the easiest positions for this.

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The prostate gland is a chestnut -shaped
lump about a third of the way inside

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the man's bum.

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Try gently stroking this to send a man
into orbit.

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Don't do it without asking first,
though. There is such a thing as

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man too much.

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Make sure that any finger inserted into
his bum has short nails and is well

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lubricated. The inside wall is made of
far thinner skin than that of the vagina

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and can easily be torn.

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However, a careful approach with a well
-lubricated finger or toy should be fine

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and can be intensely pleasurable.

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If you want to have great sex in the
missionary position, both of you need to

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work at it. Whilst the woman flexes her
vaginal muscles and strokes the man's

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erogenous bones, he can make circular
movements with his hips to stimulate the

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-spot or press down with his pubic bone
to stimulate her clitoris.

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Obviously, it's easy to reach a woman's
breasts in the missionary position, but

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don't just go for the obvious. Kissing
her neck and stroking her torso may have

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just as much effect.

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The missionary position offers lots of
scope and it's no wonder it's been the

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top choice for so many people for so
long.

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It's great for clitoral stimulation,
gives you both the chance to touch each

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other's bodies during sex and you can
kiss and hug whilst you make love.

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Who said the missionary position has to
be boring?

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I love it when I'm on top.

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There's more control in my hands.

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I decide how fast, deep and intense it
can be.

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Subconsciously, it's probably a power
thing, but that's a whole other area of

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psyche.

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Another popular position is the woman on
top, where the woman rides the man.

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This position puts the control with the
woman. She can set the speed and depth

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of penetration.

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Obviously, the man's movement is
tempered in this position.

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In fact, some women like this element
and add to it by pinning their partner's

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arms to the bed whilst they make love to
them.

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There's nothing that makes me feel as
sexy as going on top.

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It's kind of, I am woman, hear me roar.

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Sometimes women like to lean forward and
kiss their partner, whilst at other

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times they like to sit upright or lean
back as they bounce on their partner's

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penis.

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It generally takes longer for a man to
come in this position, so it's a great

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one to try if you want things to last
longer.

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Watching my girlfriend bouncing on top
of me turns me on almost as much as the

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way it feels.

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She's so sexy when she comes.

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If the man wants deeper penetration, he
can arch his pelvis towards the woman,

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although this position is already great
for deep penetration.

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One of the best things about this
position is the amount of visceral

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it allows.

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The more the woman leans forward, the
better the friction it provides.

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Use lots of lubricants if chafing is a
problem.

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Start in the traditional woman on top
position, then gradually move until the

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woman is lying directly on top of the
man. By gently rocking and circling

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the man is inside her, the clitoris and
pubic area get maximum stimulation while

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his penis stimulates her inside.

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It's a kind of reverse cat technique.

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Close those legs together for maximum
pleasure.

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This position is great if the man is
very well endowed as it controls the

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of penetration.

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Nothing beats lying flat on top of him
and grinding away.

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If I ever find it hard to come, we
change to that position and it always

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off.

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Another way to vary this position is to
start from woman on top.

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The man then gradually sits up, holding
the woman in his arms. They then rock

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their way to climax.

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You can add to the woman on top's
position by moving your legs. The woman

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on the man's penis, puts her legs over
his shoulders, then leans back on her

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hands. He also leans back, which pushes
his penis against her G -spot to

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increase their pleasure.

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Or why not try starting with the man on
his knees? The woman sits astride him

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with her legs out behind him and uses
her arms to support herself.

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The man grips her hips to control the
thrusting.

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The raised kneeling position puts the
cliff in the perfect place to rub

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the man's torso and get the stimulation
it needs.

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Some men like having their nipples
pinched or kissed and sucked while they

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love. Woman on top is the perfect
position to make lots of chest nibbling

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Conversely, some women enjoy having
their breasts teased while they're on

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Try teasing your partner, hovering your
breath tantalisingly millimetres from

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his face, then pulling away.

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Of course, you want him to catch your
nipples between his lips at some stage,

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but anticipation can be a wonderful
thing.

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If you have long hair, brushing it over
his body seductively whilst you ride him

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can also add an extra frisson.

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Alternate leaning forwards and teasing
him with your breath.

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with leaning backwards to make it easier
for his penis to hit your G -spot.

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And squeezing your vaginal muscles
whilst grinding and moving backwards and

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forwards will blow you both away.

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For a real mutual treat, a woman should
lower herself onto the man's penis but

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only slide down as far as the head
before oh -so -slowly easing back.

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Repeat this ten times.

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before sliding all the way down to the
base of his shaft in one go.

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After that deep thrust, pull back up
again and tease the head eight times

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slamming back down, this time for two
thrusts.

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Next, do seven shallow thrusts and three
deep thrusts, and so on.

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Try gripping his penis with your vaginal
muscles when he's on the shallow thrust

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for sexercise that will send you both
sky high.

448
00:34:59,020 --> 00:35:03,560
By the time you get up to ten deep
thrusts, you'll be giving this technique

449
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:05,260
definite ten out of ten.

450
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:14,860
Some women enjoy being anally
stimulated. If so, this is the best

451
00:35:14,860 --> 00:35:17,900
inserting a well -lubed finger or toy
into her.

452
00:35:19,150 --> 00:35:23,850
Woman on top sex is also a very easy
position for stroking a man's testicles.

453
00:35:24,230 --> 00:35:29,530
Women, try gently pulling down on them
while he's penetrating you. And again, a

454
00:35:29,530 --> 00:35:32,030
bit of perineum stimulation never goes
amiss.

455
00:35:33,930 --> 00:35:38,090
In fact, hands can be used in many ways
to make sex even better.

456
00:35:38,350 --> 00:35:43,290
If a woman stretches the skin on a man's
penis gently downwards by holding on to

457
00:35:43,290 --> 00:35:48,450
the base, it'll add to his thrill, so
it's also likely to speed up his orgasm.

458
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:54,380
Feeling a rush of blood to the head
arouses some women. If you're one, lean

459
00:35:54,380 --> 00:35:58,380
in the woman on top position until your
head hangs off the end of the bed.

460
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:03,300
This also clearly presents the clitoris
for manual stimulation by either

461
00:36:03,300 --> 00:36:04,300
partner.

462
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:11,580
If either of you are significantly
taller than the other, woman on top is

463
00:36:11,580 --> 00:36:12,580
easiest position.

464
00:36:13,740 --> 00:36:18,700
And if sex doesn't last long enough,
woman on top can improve things. The

465
00:36:18,700 --> 00:36:22,660
can keep penetration shallow and go at
her pace rather than his.

466
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:27,300
Try the stop -start technique whilst in
the woman on top position.

467
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:32,080
The man should concentrate on lying
still while the woman moves up and down

468
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:34,280
slowly until he is about to come.

469
00:36:34,500 --> 00:36:40,280
She then stops until he knows he can
hold his orgasm back and then starts

470
00:36:41,260 --> 00:36:45,720
Every time the man nears climax, the
woman should keep the stop -start going

471
00:36:45,720 --> 00:36:47,980
until she's ready for him to come.

472
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:53,320
Then he can start moving his hips, and
both partners get to enjoy a spine

473
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:54,580
-tingling orgasm.

474
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:03,380
A fun variation on Woman on Top is the
reverse cowgirl. It takes a bit of

475
00:37:03,380 --> 00:37:05,700
practice, but, hey, you'll have fun
practicing.

476
00:37:06,060 --> 00:37:08,360
The woman straddles the man backwards.

477
00:37:08,970 --> 00:37:12,750
She then puts her hands on his knees or
on either side of him for leverage.

478
00:37:13,090 --> 00:37:16,490
He gets added visual stimulation from
seeing her buttocks.

479
00:37:16,790 --> 00:37:21,830
She gets great G -spot stimulation,
however, move slowly in this position

480
00:37:21,830 --> 00:37:25,930
you know exactly what the best angle is
for both of you. You don't want the

481
00:37:25,930 --> 00:37:27,310
penis to bend back too far.

482
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:33,440
When the man's about to climax, the
woman should lean forward, grab his toes

483
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,740
tug on them. The nerves in the toes are
connected to the ones in his penis, so

484
00:37:37,740 --> 00:37:39,880
this will make his orgasm more intense.

485
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:48,720
With the woman on top, you can kiss and
caress each other easily. If the woman's

486
00:37:48,720 --> 00:37:53,040
pregnant or either of you have large
stomachs, it can be the easiest position

487
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:57,060
use. Woman on top allows lots of scope
for caressing each other.

488
00:37:57,770 --> 00:38:01,530
Try looking into each other's eyes while
you make love in this position for an

489
00:38:01,530 --> 00:38:03,410
intimately mind -blowing experience.

490
00:38:29,450 --> 00:38:31,450
There's something really comfy about
spooning.

491
00:38:31,750 --> 00:38:35,170
We usually drift into it in the mornings
when we're both sleepy because it

492
00:38:35,170 --> 00:38:38,230
doesn't take much effort. It's a really
great way to wake up.

493
00:38:39,230 --> 00:38:41,750
Sex side by side can be wonderful.

494
00:38:42,050 --> 00:38:47,070
Possibly the most relaxing of sexual
positions is spooning. Both of you lie

495
00:38:47,070 --> 00:38:50,630
your sides, facing in the same direction
with the man behind the woman.

496
00:38:50,890 --> 00:38:55,750
The man slides in and you both gently
thrust or rock to orgasm.

497
00:38:56,590 --> 00:39:00,970
You can kiss in this position and the
man can stroke the woman all over at the

498
00:39:00,970 --> 00:39:01,970
same time.

499
00:39:02,510 --> 00:39:06,330
I like spoons because I like the feeling
of him all the way down my back and

500
00:39:06,330 --> 00:39:07,330
being hugged.

501
00:39:07,810 --> 00:39:13,190
You can also try side -by -side sex
facing each other. Although this is

502
00:39:13,190 --> 00:39:17,930
to get into, being able to stare into
your lover's eyes whilst you have sex

503
00:39:17,930 --> 00:39:19,470
a comforting level of intimacy.

504
00:39:19,990 --> 00:39:24,330
Start in either missionary or woman -on
-top positions, then roll onto your

505
00:39:24,330 --> 00:39:25,330
thighs.

506
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:32,200
If the penetration isn't deep enough,
then the woman can bend her legs and

507
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:33,640
it on top of the man's thigh.

508
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:40,320
Another twist on this position is to
have sex facing each other while the

509
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:42,240
wraps her legs around the man's waist.

510
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:47,100
To deepen penetration, the man simply
bends his legs to give greater leverage.

511
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:55,120
To get super close and have lots of
clitoral stimulation, try side -by -side

512
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:56,120
with scissoring.

513
00:39:56,670 --> 00:40:00,930
Face each other and scissor your legs
together before the man slides inside.

514
00:40:01,710 --> 00:40:03,470
Hold onto each other for leverage.

515
00:40:03,790 --> 00:40:08,430
You could try moving your hips in a
circular motion rather than thrusting

516
00:40:08,430 --> 00:40:10,350
side -by -side cat -like position.

517
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:19,320
If you find side -by -side sex tricky,
try starting in the woman on top

518
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:23,020
position, with the woman leaning back
and resting on her arms.

519
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:27,580
Then roll into side -by -side sex when
her legs get tired.

520
00:40:28,060 --> 00:40:32,980
The man should lock his thighs round her
waist and hold her thighs before

521
00:40:32,980 --> 00:40:37,620
rolling. This will give deeper
penetration than traditional side -by

522
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:39,920
and the roll itself will give you a
thrill.

523
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:45,720
The whole spoons thing was recommended
by a mate when she got pregnant as the

524
00:40:45,720 --> 00:40:47,460
only possible way to have sex
comfortably.

525
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:51,860
I'm so glad she told me about it because
she was right and it was handy to know

526
00:40:51,860 --> 00:40:52,860
when I got pregnant.

527
00:40:53,380 --> 00:40:57,720
If either of you are large, taking side
-by -side sex from a different angle

528
00:40:57,720 --> 00:40:58,920
will make things easier.

529
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,880
The woman should lie on her back with
the man lying on his side.

530
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:08,400
The woman then lifts her right leg up
while the man puts his leg over hers and

531
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:09,400
inserts his penis.

532
00:41:09,740 --> 00:41:14,180
This position gives lots of scope for
the woman to rub her clitoris against

533
00:41:14,180 --> 00:41:15,180
thigh.

534
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:26,280
For true indulgence, try spooning sex
with a glass of champagne in your hand.

535
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:31,120
You can feed each other erotic tidbits
of food whilst enjoying each other's

536
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:36,680
bodies. Fruits, chocolates or smoked
salmon blinis are all ideal for this

537
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:37,800
decadent of acts.

538
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,880
Generally, sex side by side is a
relaxing and romantic position.

539
00:41:46,240 --> 00:41:50,920
The body hug effect will make you feel
loving and the shared effort makes it

540
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,480
ideal for a lazy Sunday morning special.

541
00:42:25,450 --> 00:42:29,190
It's an animal thing. When he grips my
thighs and gets deep inside me, it feels

542
00:42:29,190 --> 00:42:30,290
wilder than other positions.

543
00:42:32,030 --> 00:42:37,750
Sex from behind is also a popular
position, be it the traditional doggy

544
00:42:37,750 --> 00:42:39,050
one of the myriad variations.

545
00:42:39,570 --> 00:42:43,170
It's ideal for G -spot simulation and
has raw appeal.

546
00:42:44,250 --> 00:42:49,250
Doggy style is simple to try. The woman
gets on her hands and knees or lies on

547
00:42:49,250 --> 00:42:54,310
her front on the bed or wherever else.
The man kneels behind her, penetrates

548
00:42:54,310 --> 00:42:55,630
and grafts her hips.

549
00:42:56,010 --> 00:43:00,270
Some men prefer to put their legs
between their partner's thighs whilst

550
00:43:00,270 --> 00:43:04,810
keep them outside her legs. As ever, if
the woman keeps her thighs together, her

551
00:43:04,810 --> 00:43:05,950
vagina will be tighter.

552
00:43:08,710 --> 00:43:10,470
It's got to be taking her from behind.

553
00:43:10,940 --> 00:43:14,400
The view is good and my legs are a lot
stronger than my arms so it's far

554
00:43:15,620 --> 00:43:18,460
This position gives the man a lot of
freedom to explore.

555
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:22,880
He can cut up her breasts and play with
her nipples as he thrusts. He can also

556
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:25,620
play with her clitoris or she can play
with herself.

557
00:43:27,630 --> 00:43:32,970
For a lazy and languorous variation of
sex from behind, the man can lie on his

558
00:43:32,970 --> 00:43:37,470
back with the woman lying on her back on
top of him. Her clitoris and breasts

559
00:43:37,470 --> 00:43:42,430
are easily reachable, and he can enjoy
the sensual sliding of her body against

560
00:43:42,430 --> 00:43:43,430
his.

561
00:43:43,510 --> 00:43:48,270
In this position, penetration is not
that deep. However, remember that the

562
00:43:48,270 --> 00:43:50,570
vagina is most sensitive at the
entrance.

563
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:52,760
though deeper isn't always better.

564
00:43:53,340 --> 00:43:56,160
Shallow penetration can be great for men
too.

565
00:43:56,360 --> 00:44:01,340
It constantly stimulates the head of the
penis and the frenulum, which are more

566
00:44:01,340 --> 00:44:02,700
sensitive than the shaft.

567
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:13,640
Sex from behind can be fun if you take
it just outside the bed.

568
00:44:13,860 --> 00:44:18,320
The woman kneels, facing the bed, while
the man penetrates her from behind.

569
00:44:19,130 --> 00:44:22,730
The further forward the woman leans, the
deeper the man can go.

570
00:44:25,570 --> 00:44:28,450
I love it when he lies on top of me when
I'm face down.

571
00:44:28,710 --> 00:44:31,170
I rub myself against the bed while he's
shagging me.

572
00:44:32,630 --> 00:44:36,590
Many women find it pleasurable if they
lie on their front while the man enters

573
00:44:36,590 --> 00:44:37,590
them from behind.

574
00:44:38,170 --> 00:44:42,490
Penetration isn't as deep as it is with
the classic doggy style, so this is a

575
00:44:42,490 --> 00:44:45,750
good one to try if the man is
particularly well endowed.

576
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,800
If you're lying on your front rather
than kneeling, a pillow underneath your

577
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:54,720
vulva can add to the clitoral friction
you need.

578
00:44:56,060 --> 00:45:00,120
Masturbating during sex is one of the
easiest ways to increase the chances of

579
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:04,140
achieving orgasm. It's not a negative
comment on the man's skills.

580
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:09,040
If anything, it shows great intimacy
between partners, as masturbating in

581
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:11,580
of your lover requires a certain amount
of trust.

582
00:45:12,350 --> 00:45:16,570
If you have problems coming with him
inside you, masturbate until close to

583
00:45:16,570 --> 00:45:18,730
climax and then let him penetrate you.

584
00:45:22,790 --> 00:45:27,710
Doggy style is a great position to
incorporate masturbation and sex toys

585
00:45:27,850 --> 00:45:31,750
particularly given that it doesn't
provide any direct clitoral stimulation.

586
00:45:32,190 --> 00:45:36,530
A finger or vibrator on the clit can
give a woman the best of both worlds.

587
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:41,240
G -spot stimulation through the
penetration and clitoral stimulation as

588
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:44,340
Even better, he'll feel the vibrations
too.

589
00:45:46,140 --> 00:45:51,460
Remember, using toys isn't just for
women. Try setting a vibrator going on

590
00:45:51,460 --> 00:45:56,420
balls whilst he's thrusting to give him
a thrill. And men, add some gentle

591
00:45:56,420 --> 00:46:01,540
stroking or rain soft kisses over her
neck and shoulders to add more

592
00:46:01,540 --> 00:46:02,540
to proceedings.

593
00:46:03,910 --> 00:46:08,890
Doggy style is great for G -spot
simulation, but to make things really

594
00:46:08,890 --> 00:46:14,110
need to aim for the A -zone. Between a
woman's G -spot and her cervix is an

595
00:46:14,110 --> 00:46:17,930
called the anterior fornic zone, or A
-zone for short.

596
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:24,340
Found by scientists investigating
vaginal dryness in 1996, you can feel it

597
00:46:24,340 --> 00:46:26,420
your fingers first to know where to aim.

598
00:46:26,940 --> 00:46:31,760
First of all, feel for the G spot, a
spongy mass about a third of the way up.

599
00:46:32,060 --> 00:46:37,340
Carry on to the cervix, which feels
round. Be careful. It can hurt if you

600
00:46:37,340 --> 00:46:38,340
too hard against it.

601
00:46:38,660 --> 00:46:41,920
Then move your fingers back until you're
halfway between the two.

602
00:46:42,240 --> 00:46:47,020
This is the A zone, which should be easy
to spot because you'll be crying out.

603
00:46:47,220 --> 00:46:48,220
Ah.

604
00:46:48,890 --> 00:46:51,890
During sex, the A -zone is easiest to
hit from behind.

605
00:46:52,410 --> 00:46:57,750
Women will often experience strong
contractions if it's hit, which feels as

606
00:46:57,750 --> 00:46:59,270
they're trying to push the man out.

607
00:46:59,790 --> 00:47:04,330
If this happens to you, the man should
press harder into the woman, as the

608
00:47:04,330 --> 00:47:07,550
harder he presses, the more thrilling
her orgasm will be.

609
00:47:13,610 --> 00:47:19,030
Sex from behind is wild, animalistic and
gives him a great view while

610
00:47:19,030 --> 00:47:22,950
stimulating her G -spot and giving lots
of scope for clitoral stimulation.

611
00:47:23,770 --> 00:47:25,250
What more could you want?

612
00:47:46,940 --> 00:47:49,800
We've got a chair in the front room
that's become our chair.

613
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:54,260
I was sitting on his lap kissing him
quite early in our relationship and we

614
00:47:54,260 --> 00:47:56,240
ended up making love.

615
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,160
He was stroking me all over while we
were at it.

616
00:48:01,260 --> 00:48:05,260
It was quite hard for us to keep a
balance though, so we ended up laughing

617
00:48:05,260 --> 00:48:06,260
lot.

618
00:48:07,340 --> 00:48:12,040
Sitting is the classic slow position to
enjoy lazy and leisurely lovemaking.

619
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:14,900
The woman just climbs on and grinds
away.

620
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:20,280
Whether face to face or not, taking
things slowly is key to getting a great

621
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:25,620
climax. Standing sex, on the other hand,
is mostly designed for the quickie. If

622
00:48:25,620 --> 00:48:30,260
he's got strong thighs, try having sex
standing up whilst the woman wraps her

623
00:48:30,260 --> 00:48:31,280
legs around him.

624
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:36,520
You'll both get deep penetration and can
kiss and caress each other whilst you

625
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:37,520
make love.

626
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:43,520
I love sex standing up, although I have
to stand on the phone book that I'm the

627
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:44,580
right height to do it.

628
00:48:45,980 --> 00:48:50,840
Doggy variance is where the woman leans
over a table or office desk or even the

629
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:55,640
kitchen sink. The penetration is deep
and her slightly upturned vagina creates

630
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:56,640
strong friction.

631
00:48:57,720 --> 00:49:02,460
The split level position is where she
lies back on the table or desk or

632
00:49:02,460 --> 00:49:07,640
worktop. Again, penetration is deep and
both have great access to each other's

633
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:08,640
bodies.

634
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:23,380
A bloke steered me into an alley when we
were walking home from a club one time.

635
00:49:23,540 --> 00:49:25,140
We ended up having sex against the wall.

636
00:49:25,610 --> 00:49:28,450
It was really exciting and the fact that
we could get caught at any moment

637
00:49:28,450 --> 00:49:29,450
turned us both on.

638
00:49:31,310 --> 00:49:35,330
Sex alfresco can be done secretively
because you don't need to remove many

639
00:49:35,330 --> 00:49:39,410
clothes to have plenty of scope for
feverish groping while you make love.

640
00:49:40,130 --> 00:49:44,890
To deepen penetration, the woman can
lean forward facing the wall while the

641
00:49:44,890 --> 00:49:47,230
penetrates her for a standing doggy
style.

642
00:49:48,010 --> 00:49:51,630
Varying locations is a great way to keep
things fresh and new.

643
00:49:56,040 --> 00:50:00,760
By far the easiest way to have seated
sex is for the man to sit down while the

644
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:01,760
woman straddles him.

645
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:08,940
This can be labour -intensive on the
thighs as the woman uses them to control

646
00:50:08,940 --> 00:50:09,940
the riding.

647
00:50:13,240 --> 00:50:17,300
I was sitting on top of my boyfriend on
the back of a bus. It felt really

648
00:50:17,300 --> 00:50:20,320
naughty and I've masturbated about it
loads since.

649
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:28,660
Cry sex the other way round, with the
woman seated.

650
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:33,480
She leans back in a chair with her legs
spread and the man enters her from a

651
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:34,480
kneeling position.

652
00:50:34,660 --> 00:50:38,120
The further back the woman leans, the
more the man can thrust into her.

653
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:47,500
For deep penetration and a head rush,
the woman considers stride the man on an

654
00:50:47,500 --> 00:50:52,080
armchair with her feet on either side of
him. She then leans back until her arms

655
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:54,480
are on the floor and her head is
dangling down.

656
00:50:55,230 --> 00:50:59,290
The woman can use her hands and hips to
control the thrusting, while the man can

657
00:50:59,290 --> 00:51:01,590
pump his pelvis and play with her clit.

658
00:51:02,390 --> 00:51:05,590
If you want to try something different,
try varying the approach.

659
00:51:05,930 --> 00:51:10,390
Again, the man sits down on a chair, but
rather than sitting astride him or on

660
00:51:10,390 --> 00:51:12,890
top of him, the woman sits side -on.

661
00:51:13,210 --> 00:51:17,350
This is a very different sensation for
both of you. Be careful not to stretch

662
00:51:17,350 --> 00:51:21,570
the penis into an angle that it's not
comfortable with, and move slowly until

663
00:51:21,570 --> 00:51:22,990
you're both happy with the feeling.

664
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:32,420
Find a good place to sit. Start with the
man's legs spread and the woman

665
00:51:32,420 --> 00:51:37,460
crouching above him. She slides onto him
and then wraps her legs around him. He

666
00:51:37,460 --> 00:51:42,920
then wraps his legs around her and both
partners hold hands and lean back, using

667
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:44,280
each other's weight to balance.

668
00:51:44,540 --> 00:51:47,200
This position is also a good one to try
in the bath.

669
00:51:47,900 --> 00:51:52,820
You can also use a variant of it on a
chair. Try varying how far your legs are

670
00:51:52,820 --> 00:51:56,340
spread. In this position, the man
supports her back with his hands.

671
00:51:56,860 --> 00:51:58,660
Both enjoy the fairly deep penetration.

672
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:03,700
Women can also flex their vaginal
muscles easiest while making love,

673
00:52:03,700 --> 00:52:06,000
down, adding to mutual pleasure.

674
00:52:11,140 --> 00:52:15,520
Don't just thrust, but try making figure
-of -eight motions with your hips.

675
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:20,600
Whilst she does that, she can also keep
teasing him with her vaginal grip to

676
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:21,700
really excite him.

677
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:26,640
You can use the seated position to make
things last longer and have some sexy

678
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:29,520
fun. Sit astride him, then have a
conversation.

679
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:32,980
Or even both read a book while slowly
rocking away.

680
00:52:33,260 --> 00:52:37,680
Take it in turns to tease each other.
Maybe he can stroke your breasts or you

681
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:41,320
can flex your vaginal muscle whilst
calmly talking about the weather.

682
00:52:41,660 --> 00:52:45,720
It'll last longer and your eventual
orgasm will be far stronger.

683
00:52:47,660 --> 00:52:52,180
A revved up sitting down experience can
be enjoyed if the man sits on the

684
00:52:52,180 --> 00:52:57,300
washing machine when it's on spin cycle
and the woman sits on his lap. They can

685
00:52:57,300 --> 00:52:59,680
caress each other as they ride the
washing machine.

686
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:02,360
Just don't try it in the laundrette.

687
00:53:09,860 --> 00:53:13,960
Standing up in the shower can be quite
good, especially with the power shower

688
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:14,960
thing going on.

689
00:53:15,040 --> 00:53:18,980
Many people enjoy the feeling of water
on their bodies when they make love. Sex

690
00:53:18,980 --> 00:53:22,920
in the shower combines the stimulation
of your lovemaking with the additional

691
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:25,880
sensuality of the water cascading on
your bodies.

692
00:53:26,180 --> 00:53:30,640
The water spray can be used to stimulate
the clitoris or testicles. If you want

693
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:34,220
to have sex standing up in the shower,
first of all, get a rubber mat.

694
00:53:35,140 --> 00:53:39,540
You'll both need to have strong thighs
to take this one all the way, but it

695
00:53:39,540 --> 00:53:42,580
add something gloriously different to
your washing routine.

696
00:53:45,650 --> 00:53:47,970
Maybe you've always fancied love in an
elevator.

697
00:53:48,270 --> 00:53:51,250
Again, there's the added excitement of
risking getting caught.

698
00:54:10,990 --> 00:54:15,230
Keep ringing the changes location is
limited only by your imagination

699
00:54:15,230 --> 00:54:31,550
So

700
00:54:31,550 --> 00:54:34,950
you think you've mastered all of those
positions and you're looking for

701
00:54:34,950 --> 00:54:39,710
something more advanced The cross
position can be enjoyable. The position

702
00:54:39,710 --> 00:54:44,390
exposes the clitoris, enabling either
person to stimulate it. Because of the

703
00:54:44,390 --> 00:54:47,090
unusual angle, it is worth using lots of
lube.

704
00:54:48,670 --> 00:54:54,270
It's a bit hard to describe. He's on his
side facing me, and I'm on my back at

705
00:54:54,270 --> 00:54:59,010
almost right angles with him, with my
left leg hooked over him and my right

706
00:54:59,010 --> 00:55:00,010
in between his.

707
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:03,480
You can get some really nice, deep
penetration, and your vagina feels

708
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:07,740
open against him. You get great clit
stimulation from his leg. You can reach

709
00:55:07,740 --> 00:55:11,580
breasts and my nipples, and if you're
both tired or fancy some nookie, it's a

710
00:55:11,580 --> 00:55:12,580
great one.

711
00:55:14,560 --> 00:55:19,120
Another position that feels very
different is the chain. The woman lies

712
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:24,040
back with her legs spread widely apart,
and the man, facing her feet, lowers

713
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:27,460
himself on top so that his feet are on
either side of her shoulders.

714
00:55:28,090 --> 00:55:32,450
The woman can rest her legs on the man's
back as he thrusts into her backwards.

715
00:55:32,710 --> 00:55:36,270
The woman could also try pulling on his
hips to deepen penetration.

716
00:55:43,190 --> 00:55:50,110
If you're feeling really smug, try the
turn. Start in

717
00:55:50,110 --> 00:55:52,790
the woman on top position with the woman
facing forwards.

718
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:57,720
Once she's really well lubricated, she
then makes a quarter turn, keeping the

719
00:55:57,720 --> 00:55:58,720
penis inside her.

720
00:56:01,740 --> 00:56:05,280
She then makes another turn so that
she's got her back to the man.

721
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:10,560
She carries on making turns. This really
does stimulate every part of a woman,

722
00:56:10,640 --> 00:56:13,620
and you'll both get some great new
sensations from it.

723
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:26,240
The turn can also be tried with the man
on top.

724
00:56:26,460 --> 00:56:28,280
Start in the man on top position.

725
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:32,560
The man then uses his hands, press -up
style, to push himself around.

726
00:56:32,960 --> 00:56:37,480
This is good for G -spot stimulation,
albeit requiring strong arms.

727
00:56:49,740 --> 00:56:53,640
For dexterous people, with a good sense
of balance, the crane can be fun.

728
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:57,960
Stand facing your partner, the man with
his legs a few feet apart.

729
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:03,500
The woman hangs onto his neck and raises
her leg up to rest on his shoulder.

730
00:57:04,340 --> 00:57:08,300
Once the man has penetrated her, the
woman should raise her leg as high as

731
00:57:08,300 --> 00:57:12,780
possible in the vertical splits, moving
her calf as far up his shoulder as

732
00:57:12,780 --> 00:57:13,780
possible.

733
00:57:16,910 --> 00:57:20,410
A similarly dexterous position is the
three -pointed star.

734
00:57:20,630 --> 00:57:24,950
For this, the woman lies on her back
with her left leg pointing up in the air

735
00:57:24,950 --> 00:57:29,450
and her right leg stretched out to the
side. She holds on to her right knee.

736
00:57:34,530 --> 00:57:41,030
The man should try squatting between the
woman's thighs,

737
00:57:41,310 --> 00:57:43,530
then lifting one of her legs onto his
shoulder.

738
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:45,360
and the other between his thighs.

739
00:57:45,660 --> 00:57:50,040
All the control and power is in the
hands of the man, but the angle means

740
00:57:50,040 --> 00:57:54,100
the woman is stimulated by the penis in
a different way, which should be

741
00:57:54,100 --> 00:57:55,380
enjoyable for both of you.

742
00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:09,740
For a variation,

743
00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:14,200
the woman sits astride the man while
he's... sitting on the floor or the bed

744
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:17,700
with his legs facing forward and his
hands supporting him.

745
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:22,820
Rather than kneeling over him, she
throws her legs over his shoulders. This

746
00:58:22,820 --> 00:58:26,880
an extra zing, stimulating both the G
-spot and the A -spot.

747
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:32,280
For the pull -up, start by having sex in
the side -by -side position.

748
00:58:32,560 --> 00:58:37,600
The woman then reaches down and grabs
the man's ankles, pulling them up as far

749
00:58:37,600 --> 00:58:40,440
as she can, as the toes are erogenous
zones.

750
00:58:40,970 --> 00:58:45,570
Squeeze his feet while you make love and
it's as easy to reach them as it is in

751
00:58:45,570 --> 00:58:46,910
the reverse cowgirl position.

752
00:58:49,170 --> 00:58:54,470
For an advanced variation on woman on
top, the man puts his feet together so

753
00:58:54,470 --> 00:58:55,810
that the soles are touching.

754
00:58:56,010 --> 00:59:00,910
The woman then sits on them and he can
use his feet to help pull her onto his

755
00:59:00,910 --> 00:59:01,910
penis.

756
00:59:11,790 --> 00:59:16,790
The wheelbarrow provides interesting
sensations for both, but bear in mind

757
00:59:16,790 --> 00:59:21,070
blood will rush to the woman's head.
Some women love this, but be careful.

758
00:59:21,270 --> 00:59:24,550
Fainting during sex doesn't add any
thrill to the proceedings.

759
00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:35,740
You can also try the backwards
wheelbarrow. The woman climbs onto the

760
00:59:35,740 --> 00:59:40,020
her legs around him and grips onto him
with her thighs. She then leans back

761
00:59:40,020 --> 00:59:41,800
until her hands touch the floor.

762
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:49,780
If you're a woman who loves that head
rush and you're supple enough, try the

763
00:59:49,780 --> 00:59:55,100
crab. Your partner kneels between your
thighs, holds your hips and enters you.

764
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:59,760
This also gives a new angle that will
send different sensations rippling

765
00:59:59,760 --> 01:00:00,760
both of you.

766
01:00:04,980 --> 01:00:10,740
To vary the angle and really hit that G
spot, the woman lies on her side in an L

767
01:00:10,740 --> 01:00:15,500
shape. The man then lies next to her
with his head facing her feet and enters

768
01:00:15,500 --> 01:00:18,980
her. She can put her legs on his
shoulders for added penetration.

769
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:20,980
This one goes really deep.

770
01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:26,380
For something completely different, try
a position where you can't see each

771
01:00:26,380 --> 01:00:31,020
other. Start in the woman on top
position, then the woman leans back

772
01:00:31,020 --> 01:00:32,020
staring at the ceiling.

773
01:00:32,140 --> 01:00:36,420
You could try not looking at each other
or touching each other to really focus

774
01:00:36,420 --> 01:00:37,740
attention on your genitals.

775
01:00:43,860 --> 01:00:48,610
For a woman on top position that changes
the angle of the penis, Try the

776
01:00:48,610 --> 01:00:53,450
backflip. This offers great G. Scott
thrill, but the man needs a supple

777
01:00:54,930 --> 01:00:59,210
All positions can be added to by trying
them in different locations, different

778
01:00:59,210 --> 01:01:01,250
angles and with different props.

779
01:01:01,810 --> 01:01:07,130
Trisex on the stairs, the woman lies
back and the man kneels one or more

780
01:01:07,130 --> 01:01:11,830
further down to enter her. This adds a
new twist to a traditional position.

781
01:01:14,350 --> 01:01:18,910
There are endless positions to choose
from. In a car, just like when you were

782
01:01:18,910 --> 01:01:22,310
teenager, push the front seats forward
for maximum room.

783
01:01:26,730 --> 01:01:31,650
With any sexual position, but
particularly the advanced ones, take

784
01:01:31,650 --> 01:01:34,010
and stop if anything hurts at all.

785
01:01:34,270 --> 01:01:38,930
Sex is about having fun, not always
contorting into the most unusual shapes

786
01:01:38,930 --> 01:01:39,930
possible.

787
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:06,180
I didn't try anal until I'd been with my
bloke for a couple of years, but I'm

788
01:02:06,180 --> 01:02:10,540
glad we did. The orgasm is intense and
it really feels like we're pushing the

789
01:02:10,540 --> 01:02:15,420
limit. While anal sex is not something
that's everyone's cup of tea, research

790
01:02:15,420 --> 01:02:19,040
suggests that well over 10 % of men and
women practice it.

791
01:02:21,770 --> 01:02:26,450
If you want to try it, it's important to
use a lot of lubrication and a condom.

792
01:02:26,570 --> 01:02:31,530
Take things slowly, starting with a
finger or toy, before moving on to

793
01:02:31,530 --> 01:02:32,428
the penis.

794
01:02:32,430 --> 01:02:34,850
As with any sex, if it hurts, stop.

795
01:02:35,110 --> 01:02:37,210
Sex is meant to be fun, not painful.

796
01:02:38,490 --> 01:02:43,090
Side -by -side spooning is a good,
gentle starting position for anal sex.

797
01:02:43,570 --> 01:02:47,830
It's easy for the woman to relax her
muscles, and the man can play with her

798
01:02:47,830 --> 01:02:49,630
and breasts as he penetrates her.

799
01:02:50,640 --> 01:02:54,920
Some women find anal sex easiest before
they achieve orgasm, whilst they're

800
01:02:54,920 --> 01:02:59,700
still at the peak of arousal. So if the
man keeps her constantly on the edge,

801
01:02:59,880 --> 01:03:02,020
the woman is more likely to enjoy it.

802
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:12,640
The missionary is also a good beginner
position, as it allows the woman to

803
01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:15,300
her anus, making penetration much
easier.

804
01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:21,300
The position generally believed to be
the best for anal sex is a variation of

805
01:03:21,300 --> 01:03:21,979
the missionary.

806
01:03:21,980 --> 01:03:27,000
The woman lies on her back with her
knees in the air. The man then kneels or

807
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,040
lies facing her and slides in.

808
01:03:29,360 --> 01:03:34,300
This position helps the woman relax all
her anal muscles, making it far easier

809
01:03:34,300 --> 01:03:36,040
for her to accommodate the man's penis.

810
01:03:41,420 --> 01:03:44,820
Doggy style is the most common position
for anal sex.

811
01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:49,640
However, it's better for partners who've
tried it before, as this position tends

812
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:52,260
to make the receiving partner tighten up
their muscle.

813
01:03:53,020 --> 01:03:56,200
To make things more comfortable, try it
with the man kneeling behind the woman

814
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,180
with his legs outside hers.

815
01:03:58,700 --> 01:04:03,140
This keeps the woman's legs closer
together, which, rather than making

816
01:04:03,140 --> 01:04:08,260
tighter like it does with vaginal sex,
actually loosens the anus as there's

817
01:04:08,260 --> 01:04:11,880
pressure on it. You'll still need to
take things slowly, though, as the

818
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:16,380
different approach changes the angle at
which the penis penetrates the anus.

819
01:04:17,710 --> 01:04:22,170
The woman on top position may seem
ideal, as it puts the woman in more

820
01:04:22,570 --> 01:04:26,550
However, it tightens the woman's anus,
making penetration trickier.

821
01:04:26,870 --> 01:04:31,210
If you try anal sex this way, the woman
should lower herself very slowly.

822
01:04:31,530 --> 01:04:35,830
She can decide the pace and depth she's
happy with. The man should resist the

823
01:04:35,830 --> 01:04:40,110
urge to push up, as this can be
uncomfortable or even painful for the

824
01:04:46,220 --> 01:04:51,300
And if you're after an advanced
position, try the wheelbarrow, but only

825
01:04:51,300 --> 01:04:55,740
sex is something you're already used to,
as penetration is extra deep.

826
01:05:02,680 --> 01:05:06,880
Anal sex is something that should only
be tried if both partners are happy with

827
01:05:06,880 --> 01:05:11,460
the idea, as the woman needs to be
relaxed to enjoy it. However, you may

828
01:05:11,460 --> 01:05:15,880
experimenting with anal sex add
something new and enjoyable to your

829
01:05:15,880 --> 01:05:16,880
repertoire.

830
01:05:42,930 --> 01:05:47,030
Whatever position gets her off is the
one I want to be in. I couldn't say what

831
01:05:47,030 --> 01:05:50,830
my favourite is. We're always trying out
new stuff and keep finding great new

832
01:05:50,830 --> 01:05:51,830
positions.

833
01:05:52,380 --> 01:05:56,660
The most important thing in sex is to
talk to one another. If you want to try

834
01:05:56,660 --> 01:06:00,900
particular position, tell your partner.
If something feels good, let them know.

835
01:06:01,060 --> 01:06:04,720
And if it doesn't, ask them to stop and
suggest something that you'll enjoy

836
01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:09,480
more. If you feel pain, stop. And if you
feel pain for any length of time, it's

837
01:06:09,480 --> 01:06:10,560
worth going to the doctors.

838
01:06:10,780 --> 01:06:13,580
Pain during sex can be an early warning
sign.

839
01:06:23,690 --> 01:06:28,830
By changing positions during sex, it can
make it last longer, stopping and

840
01:06:28,830 --> 01:06:32,990
starting can temper a man's momentum and
make sure he holds back from

841
01:06:32,990 --> 01:06:37,610
ejaculating until both partners are
ready. The best male lovers have the

842
01:06:37,610 --> 01:06:40,470
courtesy to let the woman have her
orgasm first.

843
01:06:40,970 --> 01:06:43,010
There's no one perfect position.

844
01:06:43,290 --> 01:06:44,910
Everyone has different preferences.

845
01:06:45,250 --> 01:06:49,770
Some women love their G -spot being
stimulated and others claim not to feel

846
01:06:49,770 --> 01:06:50,770
anything at all.

847
01:06:53,580 --> 01:06:58,020
Some men love anal play, whereas other
men could think of nothing they'd hate

848
01:06:58,020 --> 01:06:59,020
more.

849
01:06:59,540 --> 01:07:03,040
Experimentation is the easiest way to
find out what you really enjoy.

850
01:07:03,580 --> 01:07:07,160
Don't be shy. After all, if you're
getting intimate enough with someone to

851
01:07:07,160 --> 01:07:09,920
sex, you shouldn't be coy about talking
about it.

852
01:07:10,180 --> 01:07:14,600
Be prepared to push your own limits and
equally prepared to say no to something

853
01:07:14,600 --> 01:07:15,600
you don't want.

854
01:07:15,980 --> 01:07:18,680
Try new positions and even make up your
own.

855
01:07:18,900 --> 01:07:22,580
Try to have sex in five different
positions every month.

856
01:07:22,970 --> 01:07:26,310
Then work up to ten to keep your love
life constantly fresh.

857
01:07:26,870 --> 01:07:32,130
Got a particular favourite position? Try
moving your legs inside or outside your

858
01:07:32,130 --> 01:07:36,350
partner's. Try the position with your
legs wide or with your legs tightly

859
01:07:36,350 --> 01:07:41,410
together. Tilt, rotate or thrust your
pelvis and squeeze your vaginal muscles.

860
01:07:41,770 --> 01:07:45,990
Try moving from one position to another
to see if you discover a whole new

861
01:07:45,990 --> 01:07:47,250
position on your way.

862
01:07:48,410 --> 01:07:51,410
You don't need to be a gymnast for every
position.

863
01:07:51,920 --> 01:07:55,660
Just relax, talk to your partner and do
what feels good for you both.

864
01:07:55,860 --> 01:07:57,300
And have a laugh trying.

865
01:07:57,620 --> 01:08:00,940
Great sex is limited only by your own
imagination.

866
01:09:49,960 --> 01:09:52,760
How happy are you with your sex and love
life really?

867
01:09:53,180 --> 01:09:58,020
Does it all feel a bit stale and same
-ish? Is it about as predictable as a

868
01:09:58,020 --> 01:09:59,760
Friends rerun on a Friday night?

869
01:10:00,560 --> 01:10:05,120
Just how do you unlock your mind and
body's potential for a completely

870
01:10:05,120 --> 01:10:06,480
fulfilling love life?

871
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:12,440
How do you take charge and get yourself
thinking, feeling and living sexually?

872
01:10:22,220 --> 01:10:27,080
Hopefully, my personality and how I
would be as a person is more attractive

873
01:10:27,080 --> 01:10:28,220
how I would look.

874
01:10:28,960 --> 01:10:34,660
I think I can be sexy, by the way I act,
by the way I dress.

875
01:10:35,180 --> 01:10:41,260
If it's just raw nakedness, then... It
depends on the other person and what

876
01:10:41,260 --> 01:10:42,260
find attractive.

877
01:10:42,620 --> 01:10:45,240
What it boils down to is loving your
body is loving yourself.

878
01:10:46,180 --> 01:10:49,080
If you learn to love yourself, then
you'll love everything else about

879
01:10:49,540 --> 01:10:51,140
So how do you think sexually?

880
01:10:51,630 --> 01:10:53,250
Do you enjoy the thought of sex?

881
01:10:53,830 --> 01:10:58,130
Spend time thinking about the great sex
you've had or want to have.

882
01:10:58,410 --> 01:11:01,770
The more you focus on sex, the more
you'll want it.

883
01:11:03,470 --> 01:11:05,390
Revisit previous sexy scenarios.

884
01:11:05,970 --> 01:11:09,090
Start anticipating what will happen on
the next.

885
01:11:09,330 --> 01:11:11,130
You get what you wish for, remember?

886
01:11:11,590 --> 01:11:16,810
So imagine yourself there, mission
accomplished, having lusty, passionate

887
01:11:17,010 --> 01:11:19,790
and you'll feel relaxed and happier with
your partner.

888
01:11:21,299 --> 01:11:23,520
Confront any inhibitions you may have.

889
01:11:24,220 --> 01:11:27,560
Identify reasons why you might be
reluctant to be sexy.

890
01:11:28,160 --> 01:11:33,740
It might be the lingering impact of
previous relationships or a negative

891
01:11:33,740 --> 01:11:35,720
sex drummed into you during childhood.

892
01:11:36,300 --> 01:11:40,720
Find the causes and you'll be a long way
towards finding the cure.

893
01:11:42,620 --> 01:11:47,140
When you look in the mirror, focus on
the good bit rather than hone in on the

894
01:11:47,140 --> 01:11:49,760
bad. Avoid being self -critical.

895
01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:53,120
or feeling you don't conform to some
ideal image.

896
01:11:54,940 --> 01:12:00,580
Stand naked in front of a full -length
mirror, but this time stand tall and

897
01:12:00,580 --> 01:12:02,100
confident about what you've got.

898
01:12:02,820 --> 01:12:07,100
Confidence is way sexier than model good
looks, and that's a fact.

899
01:12:08,540 --> 01:12:11,060
Imagine yourself as a lover might see
you.

900
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:17,020
Our lovers often find us much sexier to
look at than we do ourselves.

901
01:12:21,580 --> 01:12:25,960
Choose good sex videos that you can
watch together, like those in the

902
01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:29,540
Guide series, not porn which would be
offensive to one of you.

903
01:12:31,580 --> 01:12:36,060
Fantasize. Just about everyone does it,
and there are lots of reasons why.

904
01:12:36,380 --> 01:12:39,040
In fantasy land, there are no rules.

905
01:12:39,400 --> 01:12:44,860
We're free to invent idealized
situations which are totally impractical

906
01:12:44,860 --> 01:12:46,320
unattainable in real life.

907
01:12:47,120 --> 01:12:51,980
Dream lovers know exactly when, how and
what to do to make us giddy with

908
01:12:51,980 --> 01:12:55,800
pleasure. Because we're directing the
show.

909
01:12:57,560 --> 01:13:02,980
You might have romance fantasies. Men
and women alike fantasize about sex in

910
01:13:02,980 --> 01:13:04,560
dreamy romantic settings.

911
01:13:05,180 --> 01:13:10,400
It's a way of enjoying your sensual side
and expressing your capacity for

912
01:13:10,400 --> 01:13:11,940
lasting romantic love.

913
01:13:14,190 --> 01:13:16,930
You might think of sex with someone
other than your partner.

914
01:13:17,290 --> 01:13:18,450
This is normal.

915
01:13:18,690 --> 01:13:22,450
Try doing what you do in the fantasy to
your real -life lover.

916
01:13:24,510 --> 01:13:27,050
You might imagine sex with multiple
partners.

917
01:13:27,530 --> 01:13:32,630
If having sex with one person is great,
lots at once must be even better.

918
01:13:33,850 --> 01:13:38,930
This fantasy expresses the need for
greater and greater satisfaction as a

919
01:13:40,810 --> 01:13:46,910
You might even imagine forced sex and
this might be particularly worrying But

920
01:13:46,910 --> 01:13:51,970
imagining someone else is forcing us to
have sex any sexual guilt we might feel

921
01:13:51,970 --> 01:13:55,510
is actually relieved He or she made me
do it

922
01:13:59,370 --> 01:14:03,370
When looking for a partner, start by
imagining the person you'd like to be

923
01:14:03,650 --> 01:14:08,890
It's called positive mental imaging, and
it works on the basis that if you know

924
01:14:08,890 --> 01:14:12,070
what you're looking for, you'll be much
more likely to get it.

925
01:14:12,470 --> 01:14:14,250
It also works with sex.

926
01:14:14,970 --> 01:14:18,430
Imagine yourself having great sex, and
you probably will.

927
01:14:19,450 --> 01:14:21,430
What's important to you in a partner?

928
01:14:21,830 --> 01:14:23,210
What should they look like?

929
01:14:23,630 --> 01:14:25,850
What would their attitude to life be?

930
01:14:26,430 --> 01:14:29,250
What other qualities would you like your
partner to have?

931
01:14:29,830 --> 01:14:35,150
Keep the image of the person that's
right for you and pretty soon they will

932
01:14:36,330 --> 01:14:40,010
Now, let's get you feeling sexy.

933
01:14:41,530 --> 01:14:45,310
Pamper yourself and enjoy feeling
sensations on your body.

934
01:14:45,650 --> 01:14:47,950
Immerse yourself in some sexy bubbles.

935
01:14:48,810 --> 01:14:52,950
It's all about relaxing and learning to
focus on sensations.

936
01:14:54,470 --> 01:14:59,670
If you train your mind to focus on
sensual experiences, the most mundane

937
01:14:59,670 --> 01:15:01,710
experience can become thrilling.

938
01:15:02,110 --> 01:15:07,550
The wind in your hair, an unexpected
smell, the hairdresser massaging in the

939
01:15:07,550 --> 01:15:12,270
conditioner, boil your body to the point
when it moans and says thank you.

940
01:15:15,350 --> 01:15:20,670
No matter if you're single or in a
relationship, Hire a professional

941
01:15:20,670 --> 01:15:23,770
massage you, at least until you've got
your partner trained.

942
01:15:24,110 --> 01:15:27,570
The health and emotional benefits make
it really worthwhile.

943
01:15:30,030 --> 01:15:31,990
Get fit and stay healthy.

944
01:15:32,290 --> 01:15:34,530
Join a gym and actually go there.

945
01:15:35,510 --> 01:15:37,610
Exercise enhances your libido.

946
01:15:37,990 --> 01:15:41,410
Go with a partner. Make it part of your
routine together.

947
01:15:41,850 --> 01:15:45,390
The fitter the person, the more active
the sex life.

948
01:15:45,630 --> 01:15:46,630
It's a fact.

949
01:15:50,030 --> 01:15:51,030
Eat healthily.

950
01:15:51,110 --> 01:15:55,930
People who eat well have more energy for
sex and feel better about their bodies.

951
01:15:56,350 --> 01:16:00,930
Survive on junk food and you'll feel
unattractive, listless and depressed.

952
01:16:01,710 --> 01:16:04,110
Treat yourself to high quality food.

953
01:16:04,530 --> 01:16:10,150
Leafy greens, oily fish and the humble
old potato are all packed with vitamins

954
01:16:10,150 --> 01:16:11,890
to help boost your sex life.

955
01:16:15,210 --> 01:16:16,390
Dress sexily.

956
01:16:16,960 --> 01:16:19,900
People will and do judge you by what you
wear.

957
01:16:24,960 --> 01:16:29,760
Clothes which show off your best bits
and cover up the not so good, that you

958
01:16:29,760 --> 01:16:30,760
feel good in.

959
01:16:31,580 --> 01:16:35,800
Try asking your partner what he or she
thinks makes you look sexy.

960
01:16:37,860 --> 01:16:41,220
Wear outfits as ongoing treats for both
of you.

961
01:16:44,780 --> 01:16:49,620
Use masturbation to boost your sex life
not just as a replacement for one.

962
01:16:49,920 --> 01:16:56,720
Virtually 100 % of men, and wait for it,
life's getting better, 97 % of women

963
01:16:56,720 --> 01:17:01,100
masturbate. Men still do it twice as
often but the girls are improving.

964
01:17:03,860 --> 01:17:09,000
Masturbating is a sure way, often the
only way, to discover what women like

965
01:17:09,000 --> 01:17:10,000
sexually.

966
01:17:10,220 --> 01:17:14,560
Few of us are lucky enough to start our
sexual lives with a partner who is so

967
01:17:14,560 --> 01:17:18,540
patient and skilled they can teach us
about our own body.

968
01:17:19,140 --> 01:17:21,180
It's up to you to explore it.

969
01:17:22,040 --> 01:17:24,300
Some women feel odd masturbating.

970
01:17:24,540 --> 01:17:26,660
Perhaps this will convince you
otherwise.

971
01:17:28,180 --> 01:17:34,260
Women who masturbate have more orgasms,
longer and more active sex lives and way

972
01:17:34,260 --> 01:17:36,640
better general health than women who
don't.

973
01:17:37,050 --> 01:17:42,830
In fact, if you're a woman who's never
masturbated, chances are you've never

974
01:17:42,830 --> 01:17:43,830
an orgasm.

975
01:17:45,150 --> 01:17:48,690
Enhance masturbation by making it
thoroughly sensual.

976
01:17:49,110 --> 01:17:52,510
Some women start by caressing their
breasts, neck and thighs.

977
01:17:53,190 --> 01:17:57,030
Linger and move between the spots which
feel particularly sensitive.

978
01:17:59,750 --> 01:18:04,890
Spend time stroking your mons and labia
as well as your clitoris. which is just

979
01:18:04,890 --> 01:18:06,250
above the vaginal opening.

980
01:18:07,070 --> 01:18:13,050
Use some lubricant and try making small
circles with your finger around and over

981
01:18:13,050 --> 01:18:14,050
your clitoris.

982
01:18:14,110 --> 01:18:20,590
Keep the rhythm steady and experiment
with hard, soft, circular and back and

983
01:18:20,590 --> 01:18:21,590
forth strokes.

984
01:18:26,010 --> 01:18:30,690
Experiment with penetration and feel for
the G -spot which is halfway up the

985
01:18:30,690 --> 01:18:32,250
inside front wall of the vagina.

986
01:18:33,290 --> 01:18:37,550
Give yourself time to adjust. It can
make you feel as if you're going to pee

987
01:18:37,550 --> 01:18:38,550
first.

988
01:18:38,790 --> 01:18:42,330
Some women like penetration on orgasm,
but many don't.

989
01:18:46,390 --> 01:18:50,790
After a while, the sensations will build
and seem to centre on the clitoris.

990
01:18:51,290 --> 01:18:54,210
Then you'll feel an unmistakable surge
of pleasure.

991
01:18:57,070 --> 01:19:01,470
Later, do it in front of a mirror and
watch how your whole body reacts on

992
01:19:01,470 --> 01:19:06,870
orgasm. It's quite fascinating and it
can be a boost to self -image and sexual

993
01:19:06,870 --> 01:19:07,870
confidence.

994
01:19:09,230 --> 01:19:11,730
Don't worry about how much you
masturbate.

995
01:19:12,250 --> 01:19:15,590
Lots of women masturbate two or three
times a week or more.

996
01:19:16,130 --> 01:19:19,510
In fact, the more you do it, the higher
your sex drive.

997
01:19:22,050 --> 01:19:26,970
Now guys, most of you are quite
practiced at masturbating by the age of

998
01:19:27,330 --> 01:19:31,470
But the way you do it could be causing
problems with your sex life.

999
01:19:32,320 --> 01:19:35,840
You learnt from an early age to be quick
about it so you wouldn't get caught.

1000
01:19:36,080 --> 01:19:40,400
And that could explain why you're
ejaculating too quickly now.

1001
01:19:40,680 --> 01:19:43,780
So you need to slow it down.

1002
01:19:45,860 --> 01:19:47,600
You could try using lube.

1003
01:19:47,900 --> 01:19:52,780
Bring yourself close to orgasm. Then try
switching to the opposite hand, which

1004
01:19:52,780 --> 01:19:54,020
isn't quite as practised.

1005
01:19:55,840 --> 01:20:00,140
Bring yourself to the brink, hold off,
then climb back up there again.

1006
01:20:00,810 --> 01:20:05,110
The more control you have masturbating,
the more control you'll have during

1007
01:20:05,110 --> 01:20:06,110
intercourse.

1008
01:20:07,430 --> 01:20:12,650
Touch yourself as you'd like her to
touch you. Your scalp, chest, arms.

1009
01:20:12,970 --> 01:20:16,070
Vary the style of the touch. Which feels
better?

1010
01:20:16,350 --> 01:20:20,850
Light tickles with the tips of your
fingers or smooth strokes with the whole

1011
01:20:20,850 --> 01:20:26,850
palm? As a general rule, men like to be
touched harder and faster than women.

1012
01:20:27,760 --> 01:20:32,000
And don't forget to tell your partner
what you discovered so she can do the

1013
01:20:32,000 --> 01:20:33,000
things for you.

1014
01:20:33,960 --> 01:20:37,720
If you feel uncomfortable doing this,
you might have to get in touch with your

1015
01:20:37,720 --> 01:20:38,720
feminine side.

1016
01:20:39,100 --> 01:20:41,280
How in touch with your feelings are you?

1017
01:20:41,680 --> 01:20:43,480
How comfortable are you with intimacy?

1018
01:20:44,280 --> 01:20:49,080
You might not want to see yourself as a
new man, but feeling and intimacy are

1019
01:20:49,080 --> 01:20:51,620
high on the list of what women want from
a lover.

1020
01:21:00,830 --> 01:21:04,270
Make me feel sexy. Make me feel that
he's me.

1021
01:21:04,730 --> 01:21:09,270
Give me a little bit of first and then a
little bit more and make me want you.

1022
01:21:09,570 --> 01:21:12,450
What attracts me for a woman is mainly
their eyes.

1023
01:21:13,030 --> 01:21:17,230
Their eyes and the smile that can grab
me like, wow.

1024
01:21:17,890 --> 01:21:19,550
That can make my knees weak and
everything.

1025
01:21:19,910 --> 01:21:23,770
I like kind of devouring my partner's
body.

1026
01:21:24,050 --> 01:21:26,130
Start from the top, lead your way down.

1027
01:21:26,720 --> 01:21:32,020
Seduction is a lifelong relationship
pleasure which goes far beyond getting a

1028
01:21:32,020 --> 01:21:37,700
partner to have sex that first time.
Happy couples keep flirting, keep

1029
01:21:37,700 --> 01:21:41,480
alive and keep making each other feel
sexy and wanted.

1030
01:21:43,960 --> 01:21:46,920
Use your eyes. Keep making eye contact.

1031
01:21:47,260 --> 01:21:51,560
It's not a staring competition though.
Your gaze should be soft and receptive.

1032
01:21:52,639 --> 01:21:57,200
Move your eyes between their mouth and
eyes and you'll make them fancy you even

1033
01:21:57,200 --> 01:21:58,200
more.

1034
01:21:59,220 --> 01:22:03,900
We like people like us, so it's a good
idea to mirror your partner's body

1035
01:22:03,900 --> 01:22:08,820
language. If they sit forward, so do
you. They lean back, you follow.

1036
01:22:09,240 --> 01:22:11,820
This makes them feel you're on the same
level.

1037
01:22:12,840 --> 01:22:15,940
But mirror the mood rather than turn
into a mime artist.

1038
01:22:17,680 --> 01:22:19,820
Get close and use touch.

1039
01:22:20,460 --> 01:22:26,320
A hand on the waist or the small of the
back multiplies the connection by 300%.

1040
01:22:26,320 --> 01:22:33,180
Touching in spots reserved only for
lovers, like their face or neck, even

1041
01:22:33,180 --> 01:22:34,180
so.

1042
01:22:35,020 --> 01:22:40,700
Keep touching and you stay close and
show the world and your partner you're

1043
01:22:40,700 --> 01:22:41,760
proud to be together.

1044
01:22:43,580 --> 01:22:45,720
Use your voice to bring them close.

1045
01:22:46,380 --> 01:22:49,320
Talk in a whisper and they're forced to
lean in.

1046
01:22:51,500 --> 01:22:53,520
Use your partner's name frequently.

1047
01:22:54,040 --> 01:22:57,060
They can't help but feel special and
complimented.

1048
01:22:59,620 --> 01:23:00,620
Share secrets.

1049
01:23:01,240 --> 01:23:06,420
Anything which just the two of you know
creates that lovely you and I against

1050
01:23:06,420 --> 01:23:08,420
the world feeling. You're in it
together.

1051
01:23:09,680 --> 01:23:12,300
Be interested, truly interested.

1052
01:23:12,940 --> 01:23:16,940
Ask questions and let them see you value
what they have to say.

1053
01:23:17,360 --> 01:23:20,940
We're closer to the person who knows the
most about us.

1054
01:23:21,160 --> 01:23:22,300
and vice versa.

1055
01:23:24,300 --> 01:23:30,420
Order sexy looking food, asparagus or
oysters, and try eating together sexily

1056
01:23:30,420 --> 01:23:34,320
ways which suggest what you might be
doing with each other's body parts later

1057
01:23:34,320 --> 01:23:35,320
on.

1058
01:23:35,740 --> 01:23:40,320
Oh, and girls, if you really want him
gagging for you with dessert, whip the

1059
01:23:40,320 --> 01:23:42,620
term that you've forgotten to put on
your knickers.

1060
01:23:45,120 --> 01:23:49,300
Okay, let's talk about those of you who
are single and looking for love.

1061
01:23:49,740 --> 01:23:54,620
First rule, stop worrying about whether
anyone will like you, but whether you'll

1062
01:23:54,620 --> 01:23:55,539
like them.

1063
01:23:55,540 --> 01:23:57,780
Think that you're fabulous and they will
too.

1064
01:23:58,700 --> 01:24:02,680
But even if you're feeling desperate,
you don't have to show it.

1065
01:24:05,240 --> 01:24:09,240
Three simple things will get you through
if you're feeling nervous.

1066
01:24:09,700 --> 01:24:15,620
Stand tall with your shoulders back,
smile and make direct eye contact. Act

1067
01:24:15,620 --> 01:24:18,020
confident and you'll feel confident.

1068
01:24:19,290 --> 01:24:23,390
Walk straight to the centre of the room
at the start, even if you end up in the

1069
01:24:23,390 --> 01:24:24,390
corner.

1070
01:24:24,490 --> 01:24:27,510
People's first impression of you will be
that you're confident.

1071
01:24:28,270 --> 01:24:32,830
After all, you're there to meet people,
so put yourself where those people are.

1072
01:24:34,290 --> 01:24:38,650
If you're out with friends, make it
clear you're approachable and that they

1073
01:24:38,650 --> 01:24:42,910
don't have to wade through or impress a
cast of thousands to get to you.

1074
01:24:43,870 --> 01:24:46,370
Drift off to get a drink or go to the
bathroom.

1075
01:24:47,150 --> 01:24:49,790
Give shyer people a chance to approach
you solo.

1076
01:24:52,230 --> 01:24:53,790
What are the giveaway signs?

1077
01:24:54,230 --> 01:24:58,790
Are they adjusting their clothes,
smoothing their hair, standing up

1078
01:24:59,090 --> 01:25:01,250
All are signs they're interested in you.

1079
01:25:01,690 --> 01:25:06,450
Add a swivel to your hips and draw
attention to your good bit by using your

1080
01:25:06,450 --> 01:25:09,070
hands to point to your breath, bottom or
legs.

1081
01:25:11,290 --> 01:25:15,730
And when you do find the moment to talk,
no tacky chat -up lines.

1082
01:25:16,330 --> 01:25:21,910
Relax. Instead, draw some casual
conversation starters from whatever the

1083
01:25:21,910 --> 01:25:22,970
situation might be.

1084
01:25:30,870 --> 01:25:36,150
Happy couples in long -term
relationships kiss a lot. Keep kissing

1085
01:25:36,150 --> 01:25:39,030
the first time. It's as intimate as
having sex.

1086
01:25:39,470 --> 01:25:44,870
A good kiss makes your knees tremble,
your heart race and your groin ache.

1087
01:25:45,090 --> 01:25:49,090
It transports us to another extremely
delicious world.

1088
01:25:49,810 --> 01:25:54,550
Start by letting your lips brush against
theirs, covering all of their mouth

1089
01:25:54,550 --> 01:25:56,210
with light, fluttery kisses.

1090
01:25:57,930 --> 01:26:03,550
Let your lips part to expose the more
sensitive skin inside and let your

1091
01:26:03,550 --> 01:26:05,390
touch just inside their mouth.

1092
01:26:07,280 --> 01:26:12,460
Be guided by how far they insert their
tongue as to how far you push yours

1093
01:26:12,460 --> 01:26:13,580
inside their mouth.

1094
01:26:16,020 --> 01:26:18,660
Use your hands to cup your partner's
face.

1095
01:26:18,980 --> 01:26:22,140
It gives you more control and it's
incredibly sexy.

1096
01:26:26,640 --> 01:26:29,740
Detour to the neck. It's a hot zone for
most of us.

1097
01:26:30,000 --> 01:26:34,100
Try gentle bites alternated with soft,
sexy kisses.

1098
01:26:36,300 --> 01:26:40,600
The closer the pelvis is when you kiss,
the more the two of you want sex.

1099
01:26:41,000 --> 01:26:43,920
Try pressing yours close to test the
reaction.

1100
01:26:45,240 --> 01:26:46,400
Kissing is addictive.

1101
01:26:46,600 --> 01:26:52,100
It forms a strong, lasting bond between
you and your partner, and it's worth

1102
01:26:52,100 --> 01:26:56,020
putting effort and attention into
keeping it fresh and exciting.

1103
01:26:57,000 --> 01:27:02,140
It's a well -known truth that when
relationships break down, it's usually

1104
01:27:02,140 --> 01:27:04,400
kissing that stops before the sex.

1105
01:27:05,230 --> 01:27:07,930
It's a litmus test of how well you're
getting on.

1106
01:27:11,570 --> 01:27:16,750
Most of us rip our clothes off eager to
get naked or in long -term relationships

1107
01:27:16,750 --> 01:27:18,170
just flop into bed.

1108
01:27:18,990 --> 01:27:23,950
But every so often when you undress, do
a little striptease for your partner.

1109
01:27:24,370 --> 01:27:26,870
Make undressing a part of your foreplay.

1110
01:27:27,270 --> 01:27:30,450
Try undressing each other, but do it
slowly.

1111
01:27:31,070 --> 01:27:34,590
Pause to admire the part of the body
you're about to reveal.

1112
01:27:35,150 --> 01:27:36,730
Tease them and you.

1113
01:27:37,430 --> 01:27:43,030
Stop to truly appreciate the newly naked
flesh before moving greedily onto the

1114
01:27:43,030 --> 01:27:44,030
next part.

1115
01:27:45,310 --> 01:27:48,290
It's easier than you think to keep sex
exciting.

1116
01:27:48,610 --> 01:27:52,790
All you need to do is change just one
thing every time.

1117
01:27:53,130 --> 01:27:57,370
Lights on or off, music on or off, it's
the little things that count.

1118
01:27:58,310 --> 01:28:00,570
Take your time, what's the hurry?

1119
01:28:01,360 --> 01:28:07,080
Allow your eyes and your hands to work
together, each following the other, and

1120
01:28:07,080 --> 01:28:08,960
sex will feel much more intimate.

1121
01:28:09,960 --> 01:28:14,980
You can watch each other's responses and
imprint your partner's body into each

1122
01:28:14,980 --> 01:28:16,560
other's mind and heart.

1123
01:28:17,300 --> 01:28:22,800
Tell each other what feels great. Even a
moan or that feels lovely is better

1124
01:28:22,800 --> 01:28:23,800
than nothing.

1125
01:28:24,220 --> 01:28:28,020
Some people love hearing what their
partner is doing or wants to do with

1126
01:28:28,200 --> 01:28:29,900
Others find it a turn -off.

1127
01:28:30,520 --> 01:28:32,940
Experiment to find out what works best
for you.

1128
01:28:34,120 --> 01:28:36,940
Foreplay isn't a luxury for her, by the
way.

1129
01:28:37,300 --> 01:28:42,740
It's essential to prepare her body for
sex and it's often the only way women

1130
01:28:42,740 --> 01:28:43,740
their orgasm.

1131
01:28:44,340 --> 01:28:47,800
Become a master at foreplay and she's
yours for life.

1132
01:28:48,580 --> 01:28:51,800
Be more inventive the longer you're
together, not less.

1133
01:28:53,000 --> 01:28:57,900
Anticipating what an experienced lover
will get up to next can be as good as

1134
01:28:57,900 --> 01:29:00,380
experiencing each other for the first
time.

1135
01:29:01,120 --> 01:29:03,180
And don't forget the cuddle afterwards.

1136
01:29:03,420 --> 01:29:07,780
It reaffirms your new or renewed sense
of love for each other.

1137
01:29:21,610 --> 01:29:25,390
trying to tell them how to kiss or how
to use their mouth.

1138
01:29:26,690 --> 01:29:30,030
It's quite a difficult thing to tell
someone, I think.

1139
01:29:30,330 --> 01:29:34,610
When you're with a partner, you've got
to sort of express yourself and tell her

1140
01:29:34,610 --> 01:29:36,750
what you want and what you need.

1141
01:29:37,310 --> 01:29:40,850
It's a fundamental thing to a
relationship, I think.

1142
01:29:41,590 --> 01:29:47,330
It's taken me a long time, I guess, to
reach the kind of asking for what I want

1143
01:29:47,330 --> 01:29:48,330
sexually.

1144
01:29:48,410 --> 01:29:53,910
Now I believe that I'm assertive enough
and I have ways.

1145
01:29:55,010 --> 01:30:01,590
Talking frank about sex, which we do,
somehow makes the actual sex

1146
01:30:01,590 --> 01:30:06,110
sexier. Good communication is crucial to
maintaining and enhancing a

1147
01:30:06,110 --> 01:30:11,350
relationship. Happy couples know how to
talk openly, how to ask for what they

1148
01:30:11,350 --> 01:30:14,210
want and really hear what their
partner's needs are too.

1149
01:30:14,550 --> 01:30:17,230
There are certain skills you'll need to
do this.

1150
01:30:18,250 --> 01:30:22,310
Express positive desired outcomes rather
than negatives.

1151
01:30:22,930 --> 01:30:24,910
Carrots are always better than sticks.

1152
01:30:26,350 --> 01:30:29,050
Feel confident saying what you want to
achieve.

1153
01:30:29,350 --> 01:30:32,090
Set up goals you can work to achieve
together.

1154
01:30:33,610 --> 01:30:35,770
Allow enough time to talk.

1155
01:30:36,170 --> 01:30:39,730
Rushed, incomplete discussions won't
leave either of you satisfied.

1156
01:30:40,310 --> 01:30:42,230
And pick your time mood -wise.

1157
01:30:44,360 --> 01:30:49,720
Keep reminding them that you love them.
Start a discussion with, I love you and

1158
01:30:49,720 --> 01:30:54,160
I love our relationship and this is why
I want us to talk about this. We're

1159
01:30:54,160 --> 01:30:56,360
great and I want us to be even better.

1160
01:30:59,520 --> 01:31:02,220
Communicating isn't just about solving
problems.

1161
01:31:02,960 --> 01:31:08,200
Talking is just as effective as touching
to get your partner turned on, both in

1162
01:31:08,200 --> 01:31:09,700
and out of the bedroom.

1163
01:31:10,440 --> 01:31:11,600
Don't know what to say?

1164
01:31:12,300 --> 01:31:16,560
Try telling them how good it felt when
they did whatever you enjoyed most last

1165
01:31:16,560 --> 01:31:17,560
time around.

1166
01:31:17,620 --> 01:31:22,740
Then simply add how much you want them
to do the same, but shorter, longer,

1167
01:31:22,860 --> 01:31:24,960
softer, harder, next time round.

1168
01:31:27,300 --> 01:31:30,380
Then try expressing your desires when
having sex.

1169
01:31:38,040 --> 01:31:42,700
Now, the way to tell somebody they're
bad in bed is to focus on what they do

1170
01:31:42,700 --> 01:31:46,880
right, then ask more of it, rather than
focus on what's wrong.

1171
01:31:49,460 --> 01:31:54,060
One approach is to take turns touching
each other and provide a running

1172
01:31:54,060 --> 01:31:57,080
commentary on everything your partner is
doing for you.

1173
01:31:57,600 --> 01:32:02,680
Offer directions and give feedback,
perhaps on a scale of 1 to 10. Your

1174
01:32:02,680 --> 01:32:04,040
partner's goal, 11.

1175
01:32:05,230 --> 01:32:08,550
Too embarrassed to try? Give it two
minutes. You won't be.

1176
01:32:09,770 --> 01:32:13,470
Use pillow talk following sex to enhance
your relationship.

1177
01:32:13,910 --> 01:32:16,570
It might be romantic, but it needn't be.

1178
01:32:17,790 --> 01:32:20,970
Enjoy listening while your partner says
whatever they want.

1179
01:32:22,090 --> 01:32:26,470
Your mind will feel clear and refreshed
after sex and you'll be open to yourself

1180
01:32:26,470 --> 01:32:27,470
and each other.

1181
01:32:39,150 --> 01:32:45,710
I had that combination of intimacy and
sensuality with a little bit of rough

1182
01:32:45,710 --> 01:32:50,170
tumble. I was totally blindfolded, laid
on my back and totally taken control of

1183
01:32:50,170 --> 01:32:51,330
and I kind of enjoyed that.

1184
01:32:51,630 --> 01:32:53,230
Swapping around, it's more fun.

1185
01:32:53,870 --> 01:32:55,530
Variety, it's the spice of life.

1186
01:32:56,070 --> 01:32:58,790
During foreplay, show your partner what
you like.

1187
01:32:59,230 --> 01:33:00,850
Don't just rely on words.

1188
01:33:01,630 --> 01:33:04,390
The clitoris is covered by a protective
hood.

1189
01:33:04,770 --> 01:33:08,070
As she becomes aroused, that hood will
retract.

1190
01:33:09,360 --> 01:33:13,460
Some women like to be touched directly
on the clitoris, others find it's too

1191
01:33:13,460 --> 01:33:16,420
sensitive and prefer to be touched
around it.

1192
01:33:18,840 --> 01:33:24,820
When you join in, start soft and stay
soft unless she makes it clear she wants

1193
01:33:24,820 --> 01:33:25,820
more.

1194
01:33:26,600 --> 01:33:30,320
Let her guide you on the intensity,
speed and rhythm.

1195
01:33:34,060 --> 01:33:37,540
Ask your partner to show you how she
uses the vibrator.

1196
01:33:42,000 --> 01:33:43,900
Try giving her triple stimulation.

1197
01:33:44,680 --> 01:33:50,200
Use one hand to rub her clitoris, one
finger in her vagina and another in her

1198
01:33:50,200 --> 01:33:51,200
anus.

1199
01:33:53,980 --> 01:33:58,500
Make sure your nails are short and don't
even attempt this without lubricant.

1200
01:33:58,620 --> 01:34:03,100
And don't move a finger from the anus to
the vagina without washing it first.

1201
01:34:03,280 --> 01:34:05,320
You'll spread all sorts of infections.

1202
01:34:10,190 --> 01:34:14,390
When you masturbate him, hold the shaft
in one hand for control and use the

1203
01:34:14,390 --> 01:34:16,490
other to move up and over the head.

1204
01:34:20,730 --> 01:34:22,050
Use lubricant.

1205
01:34:25,610 --> 01:34:30,810
You can also hold both hands together
and encourage him to thrust into them.

1206
01:34:36,250 --> 01:34:37,910
Or try the corkscrew.

1207
01:34:38,410 --> 01:34:43,230
Rotate your hands in opposite direction,
as if gently wringing the penis.

1208
01:34:46,350 --> 01:34:51,350
Cup his testicles and stroke your
fingers against the perineum, which runs

1209
01:34:51,350 --> 01:34:54,670
between the anus and testicles and is
packed with nerves.

1210
01:34:59,170 --> 01:35:04,310
Girls, you can start by gently pulling
the skin on the shaft down to increase

1211
01:35:04,310 --> 01:35:06,190
sensation of anything you do.

1212
01:35:07,050 --> 01:35:08,950
Use your tongue on his frenulum.

1213
01:35:09,370 --> 01:35:12,350
That's the stringy bit on the underside
of the penis.

1214
01:35:12,870 --> 01:35:17,930
Try flicking it gently with your tongue
while using your hand to glide up and

1215
01:35:17,930 --> 01:35:18,930
down the shaft.

1216
01:35:23,070 --> 01:35:27,030
Don't ignore his testicles. They respond
to being licked and sucked.

1217
01:35:27,430 --> 01:35:32,250
It's an individual thing though, so
watch his body for his response to this.

1218
01:35:33,260 --> 01:35:38,260
It's also a good idea to keep at least
one hand caressing his shaft while you

1219
01:35:38,260 --> 01:35:39,199
it.

1220
01:35:39,200 --> 01:35:45,180
As a treat for him, try holding a
vibrator against the outside of your

1221
01:35:45,180 --> 01:35:46,440
give him extra sensation.

1222
01:35:52,160 --> 01:35:58,240
Some men also like a lubricated finger
inserted into their anus where the male

1223
01:35:58,240 --> 01:35:59,240
-spot is located.

1224
01:35:59,980 --> 01:36:01,920
Others faint at the mere thought.

1225
01:36:02,430 --> 01:36:04,890
For this one, make sure you get
permission.

1226
01:36:07,910 --> 01:36:09,670
Encourage him to stroke himself.

1227
01:36:16,690 --> 01:36:17,730
Masturbate each other.

1228
01:36:18,050 --> 01:36:22,290
The best way to do it is to take turns
so you both get full attention.

1229
01:36:23,070 --> 01:36:28,210
You might well decide hand play is more
than foreplay and you want to take it to

1230
01:36:28,210 --> 01:36:29,310
the point of orgasm.

1231
01:36:30,120 --> 01:36:34,480
Above all, copy what your partner does,
then add your own touches.

1232
01:36:41,900 --> 01:36:47,360
A golden rule for both of you. When
performing oral sex on your partner, use

1233
01:36:47,360 --> 01:36:49,060
lots of lubricant or saliva.

1234
01:36:49,720 --> 01:36:51,060
Wet is best.

1235
01:36:52,000 --> 01:36:53,360
Use your hands.

1236
01:37:00,270 --> 01:37:04,510
Get a head start on Oral by getting her
to demonstrate her preferred tongue

1237
01:37:04,510 --> 01:37:05,870
technique on your palm.

1238
01:37:10,970 --> 01:37:13,950
Then separate the vaginal lips with your
fingers.

1239
01:37:14,250 --> 01:37:19,770
Find her clitoris and make gentle, low,
upward strokes with your tongue.

1240
01:37:20,990 --> 01:37:22,110
Take sides.

1241
01:37:22,330 --> 01:37:26,010
One side of the clitoris can be more
pleasure -prone than the other.

1242
01:37:27,630 --> 01:37:30,650
Keep the movement varied by writing her
a love letter.

1243
01:37:31,050 --> 01:37:33,970
Spell out each letter of the sentence
with your tongue.

1244
01:37:35,830 --> 01:37:41,170
Use one hand to softly push your
partner's pubic mound upwards, while the

1245
01:37:41,170 --> 01:37:44,670
teases her labia and, as it's revealed,
her clitoris.

1246
01:37:45,390 --> 01:37:47,750
Stretching the whole area will heighten
sensation.

1247
01:37:51,930 --> 01:37:55,550
Keep it slow, soft, wet and steady.

1248
01:37:56,330 --> 01:38:00,430
Changing techniques won't impress her,
just frustrate her.

1249
01:38:04,830 --> 01:38:08,250
What's the one thing you do which wows
your partner?

1250
01:38:08,730 --> 01:38:12,290
What makes sex with you memorable to him
or her?

1251
01:38:13,030 --> 01:38:15,310
Develop your signature sex move.

1252
01:38:15,530 --> 01:38:21,850
By that, I mean your personal piece de
resistance, so they're not going to

1253
01:38:21,850 --> 01:38:23,570
forget you in a hurry.

1254
01:38:24,849 --> 01:38:27,330
Ask yourself, what do you do best
already?

1255
01:38:27,590 --> 01:38:29,970
Or what do you most enjoy doing?

1256
01:38:30,490 --> 01:38:35,070
Work on the principle that if you enjoy
it, you'll probably do it well and be

1257
01:38:35,070 --> 01:38:36,070
good at it.

1258
01:38:36,790 --> 01:38:41,730
It might be a simple swirl of the tongue
or smoothing her stomach with the palm

1259
01:38:41,730 --> 01:38:44,510
of your hands just as she's about to
orgasm.

1260
01:38:45,910 --> 01:38:51,110
You might be a gobsmackingly great
kisser or have hands that are licensed

1261
01:38:51,110 --> 01:38:52,110
thrill.

1262
01:38:52,170 --> 01:38:55,670
Whatever it might be, find it and focus
on it.

1263
01:39:06,790 --> 01:39:10,690
Most of the time it's underneath and
then I'll go on top because that's what

1264
01:39:10,690 --> 01:39:16,430
makes me achieve orgasm because I'm kind
of doing it myself, if you know what I

1265
01:39:16,430 --> 01:39:18,970
mean. My partner always makes sure
that...

1266
01:39:19,930 --> 01:39:22,530
I'm enjoying myself. He takes his time.

1267
01:39:23,990 --> 01:39:30,530
He just enjoys what he does and he goes
out of his way. Every single time

1268
01:39:30,530 --> 01:39:34,310
a woman has sex, she should always have
an orgasm.

1269
01:39:34,790 --> 01:39:41,510
Always. Can you imagine if a man had an
orgasm only 40 % of the times he had

1270
01:39:41,510 --> 01:39:43,310
sex? Or if he never had one?

1271
01:39:44,330 --> 01:39:49,200
Unthinkable. Yet, we're quick to accept
that women don't and don't necessarily

1272
01:39:49,200 --> 01:39:53,440
deserve to have an orgasm every single
time she makes love.

1273
01:39:53,780 --> 01:39:56,240
Well, it's time to even up the balance a
little.

1274
01:39:56,960 --> 01:40:01,600
Here's how to guarantee she can have an
orgasm almost every time.

1275
01:40:02,400 --> 01:40:04,660
Now girls, I'm talking to you first.

1276
01:40:04,980 --> 01:40:08,260
You need to accept responsibility for
your own pleasure.

1277
01:40:08,700 --> 01:40:13,480
It's not his job to give you an orgasm.
You have to take one yourself.

1278
01:40:14,110 --> 01:40:16,870
It's your orgasm. You take control of
it.

1279
01:40:17,530 --> 01:40:21,730
Don't be dependent on how good a lover
he is. Think girl power.

1280
01:40:22,170 --> 01:40:24,930
You have a magic button he doesn't have.

1281
01:40:25,150 --> 01:40:26,230
The clitoris.

1282
01:40:27,050 --> 01:40:31,870
The majority of women when they
masturbate take between five and seven

1283
01:40:31,870 --> 01:40:32,829
to climax.

1284
01:40:32,830 --> 01:40:38,110
But it can take over 20 minutes with
your partner in sexual intercourse if it

1285
01:40:38,110 --> 01:40:39,110
happens at all.

1286
01:40:39,790 --> 01:40:43,390
One thing is to have your orgasm before
penetration.

1287
01:40:44,850 --> 01:40:49,690
Get him to help you reach your climax
with his hand, tongue or a vibrator.

1288
01:40:49,990 --> 01:40:52,330
It takes the pressure off both of you.

1289
01:40:55,810 --> 01:41:02,090
For orgasms during intercourse, you'll
need the two Fs, friction and fantasy.

1290
01:41:04,240 --> 01:41:09,080
Women who orgasm best through
penetration take charge, so the feeling

1291
01:41:09,080 --> 01:41:13,460
concentrated in the right spot, and
that's the clitoris, by getting on top.

1292
01:41:15,320 --> 01:41:20,720
Throw him off you, roll him over, then
try the easy rider position, leaning

1293
01:41:20,720 --> 01:41:22,680
forward or back to hit the spot.

1294
01:41:27,860 --> 01:41:30,240
Or you could try raised kneeling.

1295
01:41:30,830 --> 01:41:34,090
where he sits on his haunches and you
sit astride him.

1296
01:41:34,550 --> 01:41:39,270
This position puts your clitoris in the
perfect place to rub against his torso.

1297
01:41:41,330 --> 01:41:46,690
Initially, concentrate on what feels
good for you rather than him and don't

1298
01:41:46,690 --> 01:41:48,950
worry if he doesn't orgasm and you do.

1299
01:41:49,750 --> 01:41:54,530
Orgasm for men is much more automatic
and you can always switch positions

1300
01:41:54,530 --> 01:41:57,430
you've been satisfied to one of his
favourites.

1301
01:41:59,850 --> 01:42:05,250
Man on top positions can also work well,
but it's all in the movements he uses.

1302
01:42:06,030 --> 01:42:11,050
Encourage him to push and rub against
you, rather than simply thrusting into

1303
01:42:11,050 --> 01:42:12,050
you.

1304
01:42:12,110 --> 01:42:18,170
Try using the coital alignment
technique, or CAT, in which he rides

1305
01:42:18,170 --> 01:42:21,630
pubic bone, giving you intensive
clitoral stimulation.

1306
01:42:22,710 --> 01:42:26,910
Or try the RAP, in which you hug his
torso with your legs.

1307
01:42:32,910 --> 01:42:37,470
Another way to get maximum feeling is to
masturbate yourself during sex.

1308
01:42:38,550 --> 01:42:41,330
Choose positions which allow you to do
this.

1309
01:42:41,950 --> 01:42:48,270
These include doggy, spooning and

1310
01:42:48,270 --> 01:42:53,330
the sun lounger in which you lie on top
of him facing upwards.

1311
01:42:55,410 --> 01:43:00,970
All these positions give you, or him for
that matter, the chance to manually

1312
01:43:00,970 --> 01:43:02,330
stimulate the clitoris.

1313
01:43:02,920 --> 01:43:07,180
If it bothers you to touch yourself in
front of your partner, deal with it.

1314
01:43:08,140 --> 01:43:11,120
And if he has a problem, he should deal
with it too.

1315
01:43:11,500 --> 01:43:13,060
He should find it exciting.

1316
01:43:13,420 --> 01:43:17,080
And anyway, he should want to learn how
best to do it for you.

1317
01:43:18,960 --> 01:43:23,780
If either of you still believe it's the
penis alone which should make you orgasm

1318
01:43:23,780 --> 01:43:25,560
every time, give up now.

1319
01:43:25,980 --> 01:43:28,460
It usually can't and won't.

1320
01:43:29,080 --> 01:43:33,380
The sooner you accept a helping hand,
the better it will be for both of you.

1321
01:43:36,600 --> 01:43:40,060
And the second F, fantasize while you
have sex.

1322
01:43:40,320 --> 01:43:46,020
Let your imagination go wild. The joy of
fantasy is that there are no rules or

1323
01:43:46,020 --> 01:43:47,020
regulations.

1324
01:43:48,220 --> 01:43:51,560
Bring in some of the thoughts you have
while you masturbate.

1325
01:43:51,800 --> 01:43:54,000
Let yourself visualize intensely.

1326
01:43:54,660 --> 01:43:59,980
Your brain is your most... powerful sex
organ. Use it to help you to reach

1327
01:43:59,980 --> 01:44:06,000
orgasm. Use noise and words to live out
your fantasies, but be a little bit

1328
01:44:06,000 --> 01:44:07,640
careful sharing them with your partner.

1329
01:44:07,900 --> 01:44:11,200
Some cope, lots can't. Tread carefully.

1330
01:44:12,440 --> 01:44:18,140
Guys, you can help her enormously by
doing one thing, giving her time.

1331
01:44:19,100 --> 01:44:25,780
Use at least 20 minutes of foreplay.
Now, over 90 % of women will reach

1332
01:44:25,780 --> 01:44:29,340
after this, as the American sexpert
Alfred Kinsey demonstrated.

1333
01:44:30,580 --> 01:44:36,180
Aim to give her at least one orgasm with
your fingers or tongue before moving on

1334
01:44:36,180 --> 01:44:37,180
to intercourse.

1335
01:44:39,200 --> 01:44:44,280
And don't feel you're a bad lover if she
starts helping herself during sex.

1336
01:44:44,520 --> 01:44:47,000
And you should give her extra
stimulation too.

1337
01:44:50,110 --> 01:44:55,190
Guys, if you shorten ideas for a great
sex position, try this one. It's

1338
01:44:55,190 --> 01:44:57,350
inventive and exciting for both of you.

1339
01:44:57,890 --> 01:45:03,450
While having sex face to face, lift one
of her legs, hoist it over your shoulder

1340
01:45:03,450 --> 01:45:06,210
and grind your pubic bone against her.

1341
01:45:06,750 --> 01:45:11,210
This stimulates the clitoral area,
giving her more chance to orgasm.

1342
01:45:13,879 --> 01:45:19,040
Variety might be the spies of life, but
when your partner is approaching orgasm,

1343
01:45:19,040 --> 01:45:23,220
the last thing they want you to do is
stop and try something different.

1344
01:45:24,120 --> 01:45:25,600
Don't try to be clever.

1345
01:45:25,920 --> 01:45:30,120
They're on their way towards a
satisfying climax, so you're obviously

1346
01:45:30,120 --> 01:45:31,160
everything right.

1347
01:45:31,720 --> 01:45:36,600
Stay right there and keep going until
the moans subside.

1348
01:45:37,740 --> 01:45:42,080
The more orgasms she has, the more
she'll want to have sex with you.

1349
01:45:42,760 --> 01:45:47,000
What more incentive do you have to be
the best lover she ever had?

1350
01:45:58,400 --> 01:46:03,800
It's agreeing what the problem is and
then kind of trying to find a resolution

1351
01:46:03,800 --> 01:46:08,820
to it. But just discussing it calmly,
because things can snowball into

1352
01:46:08,820 --> 01:46:11,060
too easily over something quite...

1353
01:46:12,000 --> 01:46:15,800
quite simple. I find that I either fancy
a guy but I don't really find them

1354
01:46:15,800 --> 01:46:19,160
stimulating or exciting enough as a
person or I find them really exciting

1355
01:46:19,160 --> 01:46:22,520
stimulating as a person but I don't
really fancy them. I think we're both

1356
01:46:22,520 --> 01:46:29,000
fiery and there's a tendency to sort of
go off in your own thoughts and your own

1357
01:46:29,000 --> 01:46:34,820
mind frame and realise actually that
it's not going to help and I certainly

1358
01:46:34,820 --> 01:46:37,840
felt myself kind of going, okay, okay,
calm down.

1359
01:46:38,250 --> 01:46:43,070
For every one bad time in your
relationship, there should be five good

1360
01:46:43,070 --> 01:46:47,490
balance it out. Get the balance wrong
and your relationship could be in

1361
01:46:47,490 --> 01:46:48,490
significant trouble.

1362
01:46:50,030 --> 01:46:55,030
If you find you don't trust each other,
you close off to each other, don't talk,

1363
01:46:55,190 --> 01:47:00,210
rant on to your friends about how awful
your partner is, feel bored, sulk and

1364
01:47:00,210 --> 01:47:03,750
explode into rows, it's time for some
damage control.

1365
01:47:04,490 --> 01:47:07,310
You need to take steps to save your
relationship.

1366
01:47:07,960 --> 01:47:12,300
Or you might find the only solution left
to you both is to split up.

1367
01:47:13,380 --> 01:47:16,560
Innocent friend, that's rubbish. I can
tell that from the look on your face.

1368
01:47:16,600 --> 01:47:19,380
He's not an innocent friend. You're
always lying to me. Why do you lie to me

1369
01:47:19,380 --> 01:47:20,239
the time?

1370
01:47:20,240 --> 01:47:21,240
I'm not lying.

1371
01:47:21,380 --> 01:47:22,380
Yes, you are lying.

1372
01:47:23,340 --> 01:47:25,620
No relationship is without its problems.

1373
01:47:26,240 --> 01:47:30,260
All couples argue, and if you don't, you
should to some degree.

1374
01:47:31,540 --> 01:47:35,300
Arguing shows you still care
passionately about each other and want

1375
01:47:35,300 --> 01:47:36,300
understood.

1376
01:47:37,960 --> 01:47:42,400
Most issues can be resolved, but you'll
need to work together to do so.

1377
01:47:46,700 --> 01:47:49,440
Lost libido can savage your love life.

1378
01:47:49,780 --> 01:47:55,900
Bad sex or no sex has a way of leaking
out of the bedroom to set the tone for

1379
01:47:55,900 --> 01:47:57,300
the whole of the relationship.

1380
01:47:59,660 --> 01:48:04,400
Part of the trouble is we get bored with
sex the same as we do everything else.

1381
01:48:04,760 --> 01:48:09,720
A good sex life doesn't just happen. It
takes effort, care and attention.

1382
01:48:11,080 --> 01:48:15,560
If your partner's not in the mood, think
outside the bedroom for the cause.

1383
01:48:16,140 --> 01:48:18,640
The answer will often be stress.

1384
01:48:20,040 --> 01:48:22,380
What's taken your partner's mind off
sex?

1385
01:48:22,720 --> 01:48:25,860
Is there anything specific taking place
at the moment?

1386
01:48:26,060 --> 01:48:28,620
Career worries? Financial problems?

1387
01:48:30,510 --> 01:48:35,030
Treat loss of sexual appetite as a
symptom of other issues which you can

1388
01:48:38,330 --> 01:48:43,090
Other causes of low libido are a poor
diet, prescription or other drug,

1389
01:48:43,290 --> 01:48:47,530
excessive consumption of alcohol and
even coffee and smoking.

1390
01:48:49,670 --> 01:48:52,750
Work together to bring yourself back to
your body.

1391
01:48:53,170 --> 01:48:58,110
Just because you're not feeling like sex
doesn't mean you can't do sensual

1392
01:48:58,110 --> 01:48:59,110
things together.

1393
01:48:59,610 --> 01:49:00,610
Take a bath.

1394
01:49:00,850 --> 01:49:04,010
Give each other a massage. Cuddle in
front of the telly.

1395
01:49:04,570 --> 01:49:06,870
Focus more on non -penetrative sex.

1396
01:49:07,870 --> 01:49:11,270
Remind each other of how good it feels
simply to be touched.

1397
01:49:11,550 --> 01:49:16,630
And remember, you might not be having
great sex now, but it shouldn't be too

1398
01:49:16,630 --> 01:49:22,190
off. If the issue is medical or becomes
long -term, there are solutions like

1399
01:49:22,190 --> 01:49:23,950
Viagra. So see your doctor.

1400
01:49:27,370 --> 01:49:31,870
If the problem is he's your classic wham
bam thank you ma 'am, he needs

1401
01:49:31,870 --> 01:49:37,410
educating and you're the one to do it.
The important thing here is to cool him

1402
01:49:37,410 --> 01:49:38,410
down.

1403
01:49:40,930 --> 01:49:42,190
Don't strip completely.

1404
01:49:42,750 --> 01:49:47,010
Leave your underwear on, forcing him to
spend more time on foreplay.

1405
01:49:49,090 --> 01:49:52,210
During sex, take over as mistress of
ceremony.

1406
01:49:52,870 --> 01:49:55,310
Kneel over him, masturbate yourself.

1407
01:49:55,850 --> 01:49:58,550
Show him how much pleasure you take in
foreplay.

1408
01:49:59,450 --> 01:50:04,910
As with other aspects of your
relationship, set positive examples

1409
01:50:04,910 --> 01:50:05,910
offering criticism.

1410
01:50:06,590 --> 01:50:12,610
So what if he orgasms too soon? You
don't need an erect penis to be

1411
01:50:12,610 --> 01:50:17,750
bed. Let him know his tongue and his
fingers feel just as good.

1412
01:50:19,750 --> 01:50:24,670
Perhaps you're more experienced than he
is. If so, don't be afraid of peeping

1413
01:50:24,670 --> 01:50:27,600
him. Power is incredibly sexy.

1414
01:50:32,460 --> 01:50:37,580
If your partner suffers from premature
ejaculation, encourage him to masturbate

1415
01:50:37,580 --> 01:50:40,500
himself shortly before sex, with or
without you there.

1416
01:50:40,920 --> 01:50:44,060
This should help him continue for longer
the second time.

1417
01:50:44,480 --> 01:50:49,240
While his system resets, which can take
up to half an hour, he can spend that

1418
01:50:49,240 --> 01:50:50,440
time pleasuring you.

1419
01:50:54,380 --> 01:50:57,000
Condoms can also help to desensitise
him.

1420
01:50:57,220 --> 01:51:00,600
Some are lubricated with anaesthetics
just for this purpose.

1421
01:51:08,500 --> 01:51:10,640
Or try a stop -start technique.

1422
01:51:14,160 --> 01:51:19,400
Begin to have intercourse, then get him
to stop and withdraw the moment he feels

1423
01:51:19,400 --> 01:51:21,080
himself approaching orgasm.

1424
01:51:25,960 --> 01:51:28,800
Do this about three times before you let
him ejaculate.

1425
01:51:30,780 --> 01:51:35,160
It can take a few weeks or months but it
will train him to last longer.

1426
01:51:43,280 --> 01:51:48,020
Premature ejaculation and failure to
orgasm are often anxiety related,

1427
01:51:48,380 --> 01:51:51,740
reflecting ingrained attitudes to sex
and our body.

1428
01:51:52,460 --> 01:51:57,340
Most of it is solved simply by getting
to know each other and trusting each

1429
01:51:57,340 --> 01:52:00,800
other enough to talk about and relieve
the situation.

1430
01:52:03,900 --> 01:52:05,380
Big isn't best.

1431
01:52:05,620 --> 01:52:10,820
Most of the nerves of the vagina are
concentrated in the first inch, but lots

1432
01:52:10,820 --> 01:52:13,360
women like the filled up feeling of a
wide penis.

1433
01:52:13,740 --> 01:52:19,140
If he isn't so well endowed, you'll need
to work at maximising sexual pleasure.

1434
01:52:20,960 --> 01:52:22,840
a position that makes the most of his
assets.

1435
01:52:23,140 --> 01:52:27,320
Try doggy or keeping your legs together
once he's inside you.

1436
01:52:29,840 --> 01:52:34,020
Try him on top, your legs over his
shoulders crossed at the ankles.

1437
01:52:39,700 --> 01:52:43,400
A pillow under your bottom can make
missionary much better.

1438
01:52:44,620 --> 01:52:48,780
Remember that intercourse isn't the only
way of making love and pleasing

1439
01:52:48,780 --> 01:52:50,340
yourself and your partner.

1440
01:52:51,580 --> 01:52:55,160
Encourage him to use his mouth, hands
and imagination.

1441
01:52:55,840 --> 01:52:57,600
Tell him what you want him to do.

1442
01:52:58,580 --> 01:53:04,000
Never comment on his size unless it's to
compliment. The only words you should

1443
01:53:04,000 --> 01:53:07,800
ever use to describe his sexual
equipment are positive ones.

1444
01:53:08,100 --> 01:53:11,720
It's men who suffer from penis envy.
Women don't.

1445
01:53:14,730 --> 01:53:19,150
Couples can also face relationship
problems when communication breaks down.

1446
01:53:19,490 --> 01:53:23,590
This kind of crisis can trigger the
fight or flight response.

1447
01:53:25,850 --> 01:53:30,930
Men's reaction to difficulties is often
to close off or sulk. It's not

1448
01:53:30,930 --> 01:53:32,870
deliberately done to hurt their partner.

1449
01:53:33,270 --> 01:53:37,930
Women are usually far more in touch with
their feelings and bodies and find it

1450
01:53:37,930 --> 01:53:40,550
easier to know what the cause of a
problem might be.

1451
01:53:40,830 --> 01:53:43,030
While men sulk when they feel hurt,

1452
01:53:45,900 --> 01:53:47,560
They tend to breathe silently.

1453
01:53:48,160 --> 01:53:52,260
After all, they can't express what they
don't know how to express.

1454
01:53:52,900 --> 01:53:57,180
It's the fight or flight response, and
sulking is the flight bit.

1455
01:53:58,640 --> 01:54:03,260
Some men are worried that if they
express built -up resentment, they'll

1456
01:54:03,260 --> 01:54:04,260
losing control.

1457
01:54:04,640 --> 01:54:08,560
This could mean anger, tears, or losing
faith.

1458
01:54:11,089 --> 01:54:15,790
Guys, you can help by giving yourself a
physical outlet for frustration or

1459
01:54:15,790 --> 01:54:18,710
giving yourself an excuse for some time
out to think.

1460
01:54:19,270 --> 01:54:22,510
Run a bar, walk the dog, go to the gym.

1461
01:54:22,990 --> 01:54:24,250
Work it out that way.

1462
01:54:26,270 --> 01:54:29,410
If your partner retreats, let him go for
a little while.

1463
01:54:29,690 --> 01:54:34,470
Then try to draw him back by making it
safe for him to talk about other things

1464
01:54:34,470 --> 01:54:36,750
which you think might be at the root of
the problem.

1465
01:54:39,460 --> 01:54:44,340
Most of all though, don't stop touching
and cuddling or cut off all affection.

1466
01:54:45,280 --> 01:54:47,220
Reassure your partner you love her.

1467
01:54:47,580 --> 01:54:51,500
She needs to know that whatever was
wrong wasn't her fault.

1468
01:54:53,060 --> 01:54:58,540
It should never be his problem or her
problem. It's your problem.

1469
01:54:59,160 --> 01:55:00,680
You're in this together.

1470
01:55:05,070 --> 01:55:07,330
Then there's the fight response to
problems.

1471
01:55:07,590 --> 01:55:11,610
The other aspect of communication
breakdown is to row.

1472
01:55:12,690 --> 01:55:15,770
Now, for some people, a good row can be
healthy.

1473
01:55:16,070 --> 01:55:20,050
They can express and release tension
like a storm clearing the air.

1474
01:55:20,370 --> 01:55:24,670
They may even be a bonding experience
with great making -up sex afterward.

1475
01:55:28,200 --> 01:55:32,600
Then there are the rows which collapse
into laughter, which come from nowhere

1476
01:55:32,600 --> 01:55:37,760
about nothing, and are pursued in a
spirit of friendly competition, fervent

1477
01:55:37,760 --> 01:55:38,760
flair.

1478
01:55:40,080 --> 01:55:41,560
Others aren't so healthy.

1479
01:55:41,920 --> 01:55:46,960
If you're rowing frequently in about the
same thing over and over, your

1480
01:55:46,960 --> 01:55:49,320
relationship is being polluted by anger.

1481
01:55:49,780 --> 01:55:52,840
Take stock now, or you could lose the
lot.

1482
01:55:53,710 --> 01:55:57,490
If you're both too angry to talk
logically, take time out.

1483
01:55:57,750 --> 01:56:03,590
It takes about 20 minutes for anger to
subside if you spend that time doing

1484
01:56:03,590 --> 01:56:04,590
something tranquil.

1485
01:56:05,510 --> 01:56:10,030
Think about why you're angry. Is it
really because his mum's coming to

1486
01:56:10,030 --> 01:56:14,150
again? Or because you think he doesn't
spend enough alone time with you?

1487
01:56:14,710 --> 01:56:19,550
Look beyond what appears to be the
problem to what's igniting the fires

1488
01:56:21,360 --> 01:56:25,420
You might try to follow the old adage of
not letting the sun go down on your

1489
01:56:25,420 --> 01:56:30,060
anger. Don't let rows fester overnight.
Kiss and make up or make love.

1490
01:56:31,380 --> 01:56:36,400
Research does prove, though, that
sometimes you really are better off

1491
01:56:36,400 --> 01:56:37,400
good night's sleep.

1492
01:56:37,540 --> 01:56:42,420
But if that's what you do, you must, and
I mean really must, discuss it the next

1493
01:56:42,420 --> 01:56:43,420
day.

1494
01:56:44,020 --> 01:56:45,780
Rows express many things.

1495
01:56:46,580 --> 01:56:47,580
Anxiety.

1496
01:56:48,200 --> 01:56:49,240
Feeling of failure.

1497
01:56:51,180 --> 01:56:53,120
Discontent or powerlessness.

1498
01:56:53,600 --> 01:56:56,640
They may be about you or about the
relationship.

1499
01:56:57,080 --> 01:57:00,440
Find the real cause. You'll find the
real solution.

1500
01:57:03,240 --> 01:57:08,700
Finally, there are the problems which
really aren't. Air escaping noisily from

1501
01:57:08,700 --> 01:57:09,760
vaginas or bottoms.

1502
01:57:10,060 --> 01:57:14,580
Penises falling out at an inopportune
time. Periods happening when they

1503
01:57:14,580 --> 01:57:18,460
shouldn't. Welcome to the real world of
real human bodies.

1504
01:57:18,780 --> 01:57:23,020
Sex is messy, smelly and ultimately
imperfect.

1505
01:57:23,420 --> 01:57:26,480
Let's celebrate that, not worry about
it.

1506
01:57:42,780 --> 01:57:49,740
private joke or a gag or a little kind
of that kind of chemistry is

1507
01:57:49,740 --> 01:57:50,740
really important.

1508
01:57:51,320 --> 01:57:56,060
You don't have to be the same but I do
think you have to be compatible with

1509
01:57:56,060 --> 01:57:58,160
you want in the long term in life.

1510
01:57:58,660 --> 01:58:03,340
So you're both sort of heading the same
direction and you can go there together.

1511
01:58:03,700 --> 01:58:04,920
How are we going to deal with this?

1512
01:58:05,460 --> 01:58:06,860
How are we going to get through things?

1513
01:58:07,140 --> 01:58:08,920
How are we going to get what we want out
of life?

1514
01:58:09,320 --> 01:58:11,880
And it's thinking like that, thinking
together.

1515
01:58:12,640 --> 01:58:14,080
And talking about things together.

1516
01:58:14,320 --> 01:58:19,900
I think that'll go a long way to how a
relationship goes in the future.

1517
01:58:20,380 --> 01:58:22,860
Communication. And good sex will come on
top of that.

1518
01:58:23,220 --> 01:58:24,220
It always does.

1519
01:58:24,460 --> 01:58:28,960
For the first three months of a
relationship, your body is high on love

1520
01:58:29,500 --> 01:58:31,200
Enjoy that time, it's precious.

1521
01:58:31,500 --> 01:58:34,500
And think of it as setting the tone for
your ongoing relationship.

1522
01:58:36,820 --> 01:58:41,460
Sadly, most of the exciting love drugs
wear off after about 18 months.

1523
01:58:42,140 --> 01:58:46,620
But if you hang around for a bit longer,
another set kick in, which encourages

1524
01:58:46,620 --> 01:58:48,020
snuggling and settling down.

1525
01:58:48,540 --> 01:58:54,000
You move from lust and longing to real
love and contentment, the time when it's

1526
01:58:54,000 --> 01:58:55,660
truly safe to make commitments.

1527
01:58:56,200 --> 01:58:57,460
I just want us to be together.

1528
01:58:58,040 --> 01:59:00,080
Truthfully. It's you and me, yeah?

1529
01:59:00,420 --> 01:59:01,920
Of course. Who else? No one.

1530
01:59:02,590 --> 01:59:06,890
Don't assume you have a one -on -one
relationship just because you've had sex

1531
01:59:06,890 --> 01:59:12,270
few times. You need to discuss whether
you are now monogamous and agree not to

1532
01:59:12,270 --> 01:59:15,030
have sex with other people, if that's
what you both want.

1533
01:59:18,170 --> 01:59:23,030
Keep your eyes well and truly open and
when making any commitment, make sure

1534
01:59:23,030 --> 01:59:27,590
you're seeing your partner for who they
really are rather than who you'd like

1535
01:59:27,590 --> 01:59:28,590
them to be.

1536
01:59:29,730 --> 01:59:31,030
Consider your compatibility.

1537
01:59:32,280 --> 01:59:35,000
A relationship isn't just about being in
love.

1538
01:59:35,260 --> 01:59:39,640
Are you and your partner suited as
people? Do you actually like each other

1539
01:59:39,640 --> 01:59:40,640
well?

1540
01:59:40,800 --> 01:59:42,680
Do you share similar aspirations?

1541
01:59:43,000 --> 01:59:44,920
Is your sense of the future compatible?

1542
01:59:45,860 --> 01:59:49,220
Do you have similar interests and a
similar outlook on life?

1543
01:59:49,880 --> 01:59:52,740
Are you both slow or fast -paced people?

1544
01:59:53,500 --> 01:59:57,960
Are your social and religious views
matched? What about your artistic tastes

1545
01:59:57,960 --> 01:59:58,960
your politics?

1546
01:59:59,600 --> 02:00:05,180
You don't have to be matching bookends,
but while opposites do attract, we tend

1547
02:00:05,180 --> 02:00:08,300
to hook up the life with people who are
most like us.

1548
02:00:09,580 --> 02:00:13,980
When you want to commit, be aware there
are different levels of commitment.

1549
02:00:14,860 --> 02:00:19,600
Agreement to monogamy doesn't mean
you'll be moving in together next week

1550
02:00:19,600 --> 02:00:20,800
preparing for childbirth.

1551
02:00:23,820 --> 02:00:27,760
It's also important to know why you want
to commit to this person.

1552
02:00:28,200 --> 02:00:30,380
Is it because your family think it's
time?

1553
02:00:30,600 --> 02:00:32,660
You're doing it because your friends
are?

1554
02:00:32,880 --> 02:00:35,920
Or do you just want the house and the 2
.2 kids?

1555
02:00:36,460 --> 02:00:39,880
You're in love with the idea of
commitment, not the person.

1556
02:00:40,720 --> 02:00:45,760
Trust it when you can simply answer,
it's because I want to be with them and

1557
02:00:45,760 --> 02:00:48,800
can't imagine exploring my life with
anyone else.

1558
02:00:50,170 --> 02:00:55,710
Controlling or manipulative behavior
will leave one or both of you with

1559
02:00:55,710 --> 02:00:57,170
dented self -esteem.

1560
02:00:58,130 --> 02:01:01,330
A relationship should not be a struggle
for power.

1561
02:01:01,970 --> 02:01:05,770
Excessive nurturing will leave your
partner feeling smothered.

1562
02:01:06,530 --> 02:01:11,650
Jealous or possessive behavior will
leave your partner feeling suffocated.

1563
02:01:11,890 --> 02:01:14,090
Lie and you'll be caught out.

1564
02:01:14,990 --> 02:01:19,810
That includes affairs. Now, if you feel
the need to play around, you're not

1565
02:01:19,810 --> 02:01:22,530
putting 100 % into your relationship.

1566
02:01:22,830 --> 02:01:27,410
Or you need to do the decent thing and
leave so you can both be happy.

1567
02:01:29,850 --> 02:01:34,690
If you feel love really is failing,
remember it can be resurrected.

1568
02:01:34,990 --> 02:01:38,250
But it takes time and lots of hard work.

1569
02:01:39,550 --> 02:01:44,150
Get out of the rut by expressing your
worries and boredom to your partner.

1570
02:01:44,620 --> 02:01:47,160
Set about rebuilding your future
together.

1571
02:01:48,560 --> 02:01:52,160
Make time to be with each other, to
romance each other again.

1572
02:01:52,700 --> 02:01:56,660
Do exciting things together to re
-energise your relationship.

1573
02:01:59,460 --> 02:02:00,560
Plan a holiday.

1574
02:02:01,240 --> 02:02:04,940
Remind each other and yourself of when
you first fell in love.

1575
02:02:05,660 --> 02:02:11,320
If you stop doing fun things together,
you will fall out of love. It's as

1576
02:02:11,320 --> 02:02:12,320
as that.

1577
02:02:12,650 --> 02:02:15,590
Work on your own life, independent of
the relationship.

1578
02:02:16,550 --> 02:02:20,710
Individually, grow as a person. You'll
have more to bring into the relationship

1579
02:02:20,710 --> 02:02:21,710
from outside.

1580
02:02:25,670 --> 02:02:30,330
When you're in a long -term
relationship, keep the excitement and

1581
02:02:31,510 --> 02:02:33,030
Relationships are like fires.

1582
02:02:33,250 --> 02:02:37,970
They need feeding, attention and
stoking, or the fire will go out.

1583
02:02:38,430 --> 02:02:40,070
This means looking after...

1584
02:02:40,350 --> 02:02:45,530
All aspects of your partnership,
intellectual, emotional and physical.

1585
02:02:47,150 --> 02:02:51,650
Keep dating your partner. Keep on making
the effort you first made.

1586
02:02:53,050 --> 02:02:54,890
The prizes are fantastic.

1587
02:02:55,390 --> 02:02:58,370
Little gifts or an experience you've
booked to do together.

1588
02:02:58,910 --> 02:03:02,950
And don't keep your gifts only for when
they're expected, on birthdays,

1589
02:03:03,110 --> 02:03:07,550
Valentine's Day and anniversaries. They
mean much more the rest of the time.

1590
02:03:09,800 --> 02:03:14,180
Do things for your partner which they
haven't asked for by anticipating what

1591
02:03:14,180 --> 02:03:15,180
they might crave.

1592
02:03:15,400 --> 02:03:19,200
It could be an evening in... It's better
than a posh restaurant.

1593
02:03:19,540 --> 02:03:23,880
It's the little things which make the
difference between a good relationship

1594
02:03:23,880 --> 02:03:24,880
a great one.

1595
02:03:28,480 --> 02:03:32,120
Massaging someone's shoulders when
they're stressed is one of the nicest

1596
02:03:32,120 --> 02:03:33,840
you could possibly do for your partner.

1597
02:03:34,629 --> 02:03:38,930
Anticipating someone's needs and
spontaneously doing things you know will

1598
02:03:38,930 --> 02:03:41,630
them happy is the essence of true
romance.

1599
02:03:44,830 --> 02:03:48,970
Throughout your relationship, it's a
good idea to feel confident in your

1600
02:03:48,970 --> 02:03:49,970
love for each other.

1601
02:03:50,070 --> 02:03:52,430
But don't ever assume they'll never
leave you.

1602
02:03:52,870 --> 02:03:57,750
People stay in love when they feel
valued, adored and appreciated sexually.

1603
02:03:58,390 --> 02:04:03,390
Don't be complacent. Make your partner
feel good and they're much less likely

1604
02:04:03,390 --> 02:04:08,780
stray. Think for two, how it feels for
them as well as how it feels for you.

1605
02:04:09,700 --> 02:04:11,400
Don't skimp on the foreplay.

1606
02:04:11,820 --> 02:04:17,580
Remember the 20 minutes rule, which
makes it 90 % more likely for her to

1607
02:04:18,320 --> 02:04:20,900
Keep showing you value each other's
body.

1608
02:04:22,500 --> 02:04:24,040
Explore fantasies.

1609
02:04:25,600 --> 02:04:27,660
Explore new techniques and positions.

1610
02:04:29,380 --> 02:04:31,320
Avoid settling into routines.

1611
02:04:31,900 --> 02:04:35,460
Find unexpected moments and places to
have sex.

1612
02:04:36,800 --> 02:04:42,360
Treat sex with your partner as an
ongoing exploration, as well as an

1613
02:04:42,360 --> 02:04:44,400
and affirmation of love.

1614
02:04:45,700 --> 02:04:50,160
Take charge of your relationship
together and steer it towards where you

1615
02:04:50,160 --> 02:04:51,160
want it to be.

1616
02:04:51,200 --> 02:04:56,440
As we age, just as we develop as people,
so our bodies change, and with them,

1617
02:04:56,460 --> 02:04:57,460
our sex life.

1618
02:04:57,920 --> 02:05:02,040
But that certainly doesn't mean we're
doomed to reach a point where we no

1619
02:05:02,040 --> 02:05:03,040
have sex.

1620
02:05:03,280 --> 02:05:07,680
True love will survive loss of looks,
money and even health.

1621
02:05:08,260 --> 02:05:11,940
The ways you have sex might change with
your changing bodies.

1622
02:05:12,400 --> 02:05:16,380
There might well come the point where
you're forced to resign the wheelbarrow

1623
02:05:16,380 --> 02:05:18,460
position to your sexual past.

1624
02:05:18,800 --> 02:05:23,840
But stay healthy and you'll keep having
sex for as long as you both want to.

1625
02:05:24,650 --> 02:05:28,890
And it will remain as satisfying an
expression of love as it ever was.

1626
02:05:33,970 --> 02:05:38,770
You know you're truly in love when you
feel loyal, happy and totally open with

1627
02:05:38,770 --> 02:05:39,728
each other.

1628
02:05:39,730 --> 02:05:45,210
When you trust your partner completely,
you feel secure, alive and rejuvenated

1629
02:05:45,210 --> 02:05:46,710
just knowing they're out there.

1630
02:05:47,180 --> 02:05:52,040
It's the feeling of being able to share
a fundamental part of ourselves and

1631
02:05:52,040 --> 02:05:54,380
trusting our partner to keep that part
safe.

1632
02:05:56,020 --> 02:05:59,680
Keep the seven secrets with you
throughout your relationship.

1633
02:06:00,520 --> 02:06:01,980
Love your own body.

1634
02:06:02,340 --> 02:06:05,720
Keep seducing your partner again and
again.

1635
02:06:06,300 --> 02:06:07,540
Keep talking.

1636
02:06:08,420 --> 02:06:10,980
Develop your sex skills throughout life.

1637
02:06:11,980 --> 02:06:14,540
Girls, keep giving yourself orgasms.

1638
02:06:15,080 --> 02:06:17,720
And men, do what you can to assist.

1639
02:06:19,980 --> 02:06:22,640
When there are problems, tackle them
together.

1640
02:06:23,360 --> 02:06:25,340
And think long term.

1641
02:06:28,400 --> 02:06:33,120
Love builds our self -esteem, encourages
us to be kind to others in our lives.

1642
02:06:33,200 --> 02:06:37,080
In short, it helps us become the best
person we can be.

1643
02:06:38,100 --> 02:06:40,120
We might have a love which lasts
forever.

1644
02:06:40,620 --> 02:06:42,180
Or we might have a series of lovers.

1645
02:06:42,400 --> 02:06:47,180
But whichever you choose, your love life
can grow stronger and stronger.

1646
02:06:48,000 --> 02:06:52,060
Some might say it's the true measure of
our lifetime's achievement.